The answer is: yes and… no. If you feel like the part of you that wanted sex seems to have gone on an extended vacation, or if you feel like you never want sex and you can’t figure out why, it may be that you are missing hormones, your other medications are affecting you or …
Continue ReadingWhen Touch Gets Touchy
Every couple is different. Every couple has its own unique dynamics and ways of connecting. Yet so many issues are the same from couple to couple and when it comes to sexual dysfunction, we see many of the same patterns in couples from all age groups and backgrounds. An example of this is what happens …
Continue ReadingMenopause Doesn’t Have to Ruin Your Sex Life
Menopause. It hits us all at one time or another. For some women it’s an easy transition, and for others it’s a hot mess. There have been reams and reams written on this stage in your life but what I’d like to focus on is the impact these changes can have on your sex life. …
Continue ReadingWhen ‘someday’ is turning into ‘never’.
Most women we see have been struggling with their sexual functioning for a significant amount of time. It’s not uncommon for us to meet women who have spent years — even decades — trying to figure out why they can’t have a normal sex life and what they need to do to fix it. As many patients have …
Continue ReadingYou are worth it!
Working with patients coping with all sorts of sexual issues, I frequently hear women talk about themselves in the context of their relationship with a similar formula: My worth as a person informs what I can expect/ask for in a relationship. And since a woman may feel like her self-worth is inferior because of sexual …
Continue ReadingThe Secret Female Hormone — Part 1
For anyone interested in the hormonal treatment of low desire I highly recommend the book, “The Secret Female Hormone: How testosterone Can Change Your Life”, By Kathy Maupin. At the Center we have been treating low desire with hormones for nearly 15 years. We have seen how effective it can be to replace testosterone, when …
Continue ReadingDid you know the pill neutralizes your sex drive?
Fifty years ago, the birth control pill gave women a freedom that previously eluded them: without fear of unwanted pregnancy, women could engage in romantic or recreational sex with relative control over the prospect of pregnancy. I’m sure many of us would agree that this was a life-changing development, aligned with the women’s movement and …
Continue ReadingLibido flip-flop.
This entry was written recently by a patient at MCFS following six months of treatment for low desire. Her previous entry, written after her second appointment last October, was posted on April 5th. Last night I kissed my husband’s ear and he did not move. He wasn’t in the mood and I was! For some …
Continue ReadingWhy I’m not as crazy as I thought.
The following is a blog entry written by a patient at MCFS. Later this week we will post another entry by the same patient, reporting on her progress. This was written in October 2009. For about 14 years now I have been told constantly that things are in my head. Stomach cramps — must be stress, acne — must …
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