Quarantine and Chill?

There isn’t a single person on the planet whose life hasn’t been affected in some way by the the COVID-19 pandemic (and yes I’m sure you’re tired of hearing it!) Our lives have turned utterly upside down and everyone is struggling, whether in large or small ways. No matter what your demographic, the struggles are …

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DOES IT HAVE TO BE ALL OR NOTHING ?

The human brain is inclined toward all or nothing thinking. It’s easier to have every decision be binary: True or False, A or B, Yes or No, Do or Don’t. Can there be anything in between? We are not robots, even though having to grapple with complex decisions makes life infinitely more challenging and confusing. …

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Why did I write Sex Points?

“Why did you write this book Bat Sheva?” I get asked this question during nearly every interview or Podcast I do. And for a while I struggled for an answer. The real answer seemed so complicated: to help women, to assure women that they are normal, to give women answers to questions they didn’t even …

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Where Did It Go? 5 Reasons Couples Lose Their Spark

Stress: Stress and sex are like oil and water. I’m not talking about sexual tension; I mean the daily grind, the worry about health and finances and work demands and familial responsibilities. All the stuff that doesn’t leave much bandwidth for romance, especially under current circumstances. Lack of Acknowledgement: Remember when you first met your …

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What No One Tells You About Sex

To say that in America we’re bad at talking frankly and openly and honestly about sex would be the understatement of the century. Somewhere in the realm of “the past year has been wild.” Most students in the US don’t receive comprehensive sex ed and aren’t given a space to learn and talk about sex, …

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Defining Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)

If you are a woman of reproductive age, chances are you have heard of PCOS.  This stands for polycystic ovarian syndrome.  We will get more into the defining characteristics of PCOS in a moment. But, for now, consider this:  According to the Centers for Disease Control, PCOS is one of the most common causes of …

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Migraines and Menopause…What’s the connection?

Migraine headaches are a gender specific healthcare issue, especially since many migraines are hormonally triggered.  As such, providers in the field of gynecology need to be inclusive of this issue in treating the “whole” woman.  Currently, we as healthcare providers do a very poor job of diagnosing and properly treating migraines early.  When we fail …

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Check-in Time is Now

We all have that friend who is the “Hello, how am I?” type, the one who speaks incessantly about themselves, while most of us fall into the “Hello, how are you?” category. While this level of self-absorption may be extreme and annoying to the listener, ironically there are benefits to constantly checking in and having …

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It’s Not All In Your Head, It’s In Your Brain! (Literally)

Testosterone Testosterone, the hormone of desire, has mistakenly been called “the male hormone”. Women’s ovaries and adrenal glands make lots of testosterone, we just have a lot less of it than men. Testosterone is the fuel that gets “the brain’s sexual engine” revving. When there’s a sufficient amount of testosterone, it accelerates the hypothalamus, activating …

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Under Pressure During Sex

Anxiety. Makes me anxious just to type the word. And I’m not the only one, by a long shot. The National Institute of Mental Health reported that in 2018: An estimated 19.1% of U.S. adults had any anxiety disorder in the past year. Past year prevalence of any anxiety disorder was higher for females (23.4%) …

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