Let’s Talk About Impotence

My friends and I talk a lot about sex. We talk about the sex we’re having, how to make sex better, and occasionally about awkward interactions we’ve had in the bedroom (or sofa, or shower). But there was something we’d never spoken about until recently: impotence. I always thought of impotence as something that older …

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Do I Need Therapy and What’s it all About Anyway?

Lately my go to medium for entertainment is podcasts! After listening The Shrink Next Door – “a story about power, control and turning to the wrong person for help for three decades” – I felt the need to blog about the therapy process. This podcast is a cautionary tale that therapy is not intended to …

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On the Topic of Porn

Recently, a NY Times article ran that focused on our use of the word “porn” for so many other areas of our lives. “Food Porn,” “Real Estate Porn,” and even “Poverty Porn.” All of these have become a short-hand to describe a specific kind of relationship we have with pleasures or concerns in our life. The …

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Sex is Better When You Are Awake!

Sleep is essential for good health, and that includes our sexual well-being. It’s very difficult to rally for sex when you can barely keep your eyes open. Many of us know about the benefits of rest, yet an adequate night’s slumber often eludes us. Life events, work deadlines, family obligations, emotional concerns, hormonal shifts and …

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Ode to Lube

Hello, today I am here to tell you that you should be using lube. But, you say, I’m not having anal sex and I don’t experience vaginal dryness. It doesn’t matter, you should be using lube. Many young women think that lube is something reserved for women of a certain age, when in reality, it’s …

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Pause, Sure. But Stop? Never!

It’s part of my job as a reproductive social worker, a mother of daughters, a woman, and a human being to talk about, research and consider how women move about in the world. The conversation and contemplation is endless, of course – every facet of womanhood is multi-layered, complex and deeply personal. The topic of …

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Options and Alternatives

Having options and alternatives means freedom, power, and the right to make our own choices. That generally is a very good thing! I came across an article called Birth Control Prescription Online Brands and Options. According to this article, approximately 19 million women in the US between the ages of 15-44 lack access to convenient …

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Perimenopause, Wait What?

When I turned 40, a friend was constantly asking me, “do you need reading glasses yet?” Actually, I didn’t. And remember feeling that she almost wished I did (we are no longer friends!). But sooner or later, it became harder for me to see the small print in the phone book. Oops. I’m showing my …

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Are You Watching Sex Education or Are You Just Glad to See Me?

Heard about Netflix’s new series “Sex Education”? It’s garnering a lot of press and tons of eyeballs (as in 40 million-member households, according to the streaming network). Not surprising when you consider the show’s compelling elements: a current British high school setting that’s infused with 1980’s imagery; leading characters who are openly gay and others …

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