Radical Acceptance

Have you ever faced a long-term issue, say weight loss or something relational, that you simply can’t resolve no matter how hard you’ve tried? Often times, we attempt a variety of potential solutions but every single one of them falls short. And when we just can’t seem to remedy a problem, we experience everything from …

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How To Initiate Sex

People often ask about how to be better at initiating sex — they aren’t sure how to do it and they want concrete ideas. They may feel shy, anxious or inhibited, sometimes because of past rejection, sometimes because they don’t think they’re good at it. So here are a just a few ideas that have …

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Want More Sex? Here’s a Tip…

Yesterday yet another woman told me that one of the reasons she doesn’t want to have sex with her husband is because she’s so self conscious. Sigh. She doesn’t feel great about her body and HE DOESN’T MAKE HER FEEL GREAT ABOUT HER BODY! He makes comments if she gains weight. He makes comments about …

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Low Libido after Childbirth

You know you used to be into sex. Yes, that was you, not someone else.  You remember thinking at one time, “wow, this is great!” But it just doesn’t seem to be happening that way anymore. Okay, you think, “so I had a baby (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, …

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Bachelorette Uncovered: Katie Thurston

If you watched  Episode 3 of this season’s “The Bachelorette” on ABC, (SPOILER ALERT if you didn’t), then you saw a lot of what appear to be true confessions. The sharing sesh took place not during a one-on-one, nor did it happen via “private” camera commentary. This time, our courageous, no-bullshit warrior, Katie Thurston, cultivated …

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Let’s Talk During Sex, Baby

In rom-coms, the two romantic leads wordlessly fall into bed and just automatically know what the other wants. And while rom-coms may purport to be more realistic than a movie about dragons, it definitely requires magic to know what your partner wants without them telling you. But this is real life, and the only way …

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“Just do it?”

I was recently having a conversation with an OB/GYN about low sexual desire in women. We were discussing treatment options, when he said; “I tell my patients to do it the Nike way, you know, Just do it.” I didn’t know what to say. I stood there in total silence, somewhat horrified and offended. Shocked …

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Celebrate Pride with a Queer Movie Night

Happy Pride everyone! While some cities will be having in-person Pride events this year, I’ll be sitting them out. I’ve never been one for crowds and I melt in the sun, so I’ll be celebrating in a different way: Queer movie night. Grab some wine (or the beverage of your choice) and some popcorn, and …

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For Better Sex, Get Rid of Foreplay

Now that I have your attention, let me explain. I know that at first glance this seems like the opposite of good advice, but I’m here with the hot take that to have better sex you need to get rid of foreplay. Now, to clarify, I don’t think we should be getting rid of the …

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