What’s the difference between Low Libido & Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?

Did you know that 43 percent of all women experience some form of sexual dysfunction?  Hypoactive (low) Sexual Desire Disorder [HSDD], characterized as frustrating low libido, is the most common form of sexual dysfunction in premenopausal women. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD), is believed to be caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain.  …

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Quarantine and Chill?

There isn’t a single person on the planet whose life hasn’t been affected in some way by the the COVID-19 pandemic (and yes I’m sure you’re tired of hearing it!) Our lives have turned utterly upside down and everyone is struggling, whether in large or small ways. No matter what your demographic, the struggles are …

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Why did I write Sex Points?

“Why did you write this book Bat Sheva?” I get asked this question during nearly every interview or Podcast I do. And for a while I struggled for an answer. The real answer seemed so complicated: to help women, to assure women that they are normal, to give women answers to questions they didn’t even …

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New Patients

New patients sometimes look at me quizzically when I greet them in the waiting room and introduce myself as a behavioral therapist. After all, if they’re struggling with pelvic pain or discomfort, what’s the relevance of mental health care? I can appreciate their confusion. So, once we’re behind closed doors in the comfort of our …

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If You Like “Bridgerton,” Try This..

Finally finally FINALLY got to watch S1E1 of “Bridgerton.” Where have I been? Under a rock? More like under an entire quarry. But everyone’s running behind on at least a few objectives of late, am I right? Now, since literally everyone and their mother has written just about everything there is to say on the …

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The Valentine’s Day Gift Guide

This Valentine’s Day will probably look a little different, no heading to a restaurant for a romantic dinner or traveling for a weekend getaway. But since you’ll be spending the whole day at home, that just gives you more time with your partner! Here are some gift ideas to make this year special. Since going …

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The Long and the Short of It

Long-term relationships can bring security, friendship, warmth, and comfort. But, the term doesn’t often inspire visions of smokin’ hot desire and chandelier-swinging scenes. That said, partners who’ve been together for a long time don’t have to settle for the same old same old when it comes to their sex lives. There’s been plenty written about …

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Erotically Speaking

According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …

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Dilation Station

Vaginismus is defined as the involuntary spasm or contraction of the muscles that surround the vagina.  For women with this chronic condition, any kind of vaginal penetration can be painful – especially intercourse.  The key to treatment of vaginismus is what is known as “dilation.” This refers to the introduction of a series of graduated …

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Spicing Up Your Sex Life

It’s that time of year when people are thinking about their new year’s resolutions. And while there are lots of great ideas for what you can plan to accomplish in 2021 (just celebrating that it is no longer 2020 is a great start), might I suggest resolving to either improve or get more out of …

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