Grieving Sex

Grief is an experience that is hard to quantify or explain.  It doesn’t work in the usual confines of time and space.  It’s a unique experience, yet shared by humanity.  The New York Times recently published an article on grieving a sex life after a partner dies. It was an important conversation starter.  I thought …

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National Mental Health Awareness Month

May is National Mental Health Awareness month. This year the focus is on risky behaviors. It is important to educate people about habits, and behaviors that increase the risk of developing or exacerbating mental health problems. An example of risky behavior involves sex.  Sex is a completely natural and normal part of the human experience, …

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One Heart, Many Genders

I recently watched the mini-series “When We Rise”. The show follows the true life individual and political histories of various LGBT activists who were instrumental in the US civil rights movement. Going back further in our country’s history, I learned that all Native American societies acknowledged three to five gender roles : Female, male, Two …

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OSCARS AND KEGELS- AN UNLIKELY PAIR!

Every year, I eagerly wait to hear what treats will be inside the Oscar goody bag. Drum roll: This years’ Oscar swag bag included a limited edition Elvie which is a pelvic floor exercise tracker; a Fit Bit for kegels! The Elvie boasts “better core strength, control, and better sex “as it coaches you through your kegels and measures …

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Porn Statistics

Call me a nerd but I am fascinated by statistics of internet searches on porn sites. I feel like ever since I read A Billion Wicked Thoughts, I am very sensitive to the fact that the only way to gather accurate data about who really likes what, who is really looking for what and what our habits are around …

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3 Ways to Make Space for Sex

I recently collaborated with Fiera blog writer Kristy Lin Billuni to discuss where to have sex and different ways to make space for sex. Fiera is focused on helping women get their mind and body in the mood for sex again. It’s well known that the world we live in today is buzzing with distractions …

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What a Year It Has Been!

Sometimes in the day to day flurry of our own lives we don’t notice all the “big things” happening that may affect our sexual lives: laws,  legislation, public statements and even technology. So here is a list of some of the best and worst things that happened in 2016. Enjoy. Best Sex #1: Supreme Court …

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On scheduling sex — when you have kids.

Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …

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