“Just do it?”

I was recently having a conversation with an OB/GYN about low sexual desire in women. We were discussing treatment options, when he said; “I tell my patients to do it the Nike way, you know, Just do it.” I didn’t know what to say. I stood there in total silence, somewhat horrified and offended. Shocked …

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Celebrate Pride with a Queer Movie Night

Happy Pride everyone! While some cities will be having in-person Pride events this year, I’ll be sitting them out. I’ve never been one for crowds and I melt in the sun, so I’ll be celebrating in a different way: Queer movie night. Grab some wine (or the beverage of your choice) and some popcorn, and …

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For Better Sex, Get Rid of Foreplay

Now that I have your attention, let me explain. I know that at first glance this seems like the opposite of good advice, but I’m here with the hot take that to have better sex you need to get rid of foreplay. Now, to clarify, I don’t think we should be getting rid of the …

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The Pleasure Principle

In her most recent e-newsletter, Dr. Emily Morse (of “Sex with Emily” fame) asks readers to repeat after her and say “Pleasure is my birthright.” How did you react when you saw these words? Did you say without hesitation, “YES! YES IT IS!” Or maybe your response was less than enthusiastic, or maybe you even …

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Broken

It’s not uncommon to hear from our patients that they feel “broken” as a result of their sexual health issues. It’s true, sexual dysfunction can be confusing and isolating. It can stir up feelings of guilt and self-blame and it can wreak havoc on interpersonal relationships. But I argue – do chiropractors and cardiologists and …

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Contemplate, Then Masturbate!

We see you, Self Magazine! Their issue featured a fantastic and comprehensive article on masturbation and all the what’s, how’s and whys were at the party. We highly recommend you check it out and we recommend even more highly that you find some time to explore and play! Extra points to the authors for their inclusivity: …

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Sex Naturally…

Selena Gomez has a song called “Naturally.” It has a catchy chorus: “You are the thunder and I am the lightning… Everything comes naturally. It comes naturally when you’re with me. Everything comes naturally, it comes naturally baby.” Ahh, this is so ideal, but is it for real?  These days, there are many products labeled …

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What’s the difference between Low Libido & Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?

Did you know that 43 percent of all women experience some form of sexual dysfunction?  Hypoactive (low) Sexual Desire Disorder [HSDD], characterized as frustrating low libido, is the most common form of sexual dysfunction in premenopausal women. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD), is believed to be caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain.  …

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Quarantine and Chill?

There isn’t a single person on the planet whose life hasn’t been affected in some way by the the COVID-19 pandemic (and yes I’m sure you’re tired of hearing it!) Our lives have turned utterly upside down and everyone is struggling, whether in large or small ways. No matter what your demographic, the struggles are …

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Why did I write Sex Points?

“Why did you write this book Bat Sheva?” I get asked this question during nearly every interview or Podcast I do. And for a while I struggled for an answer. The real answer seemed so complicated: to help women, to assure women that they are normal, to give women answers to questions they didn’t even …

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