Not Tonight Dear, I’ve Got A Headache

When there’s pain with sex, anything that whispers sex can make us women cringe. It can negatively impact our openness to being touched, inhibit our desire and arousal, and erode our ability to experience sexual pleasure. Some conditions leading to painful sex include: vaginismus, vulvodynia, infection, stiff joints, scar tissue from a procedure after giving …

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Pop Quiz!

When was the last time you let a sexual partner in on what makes you feel good? Go on, I’ll give you a minute…  Are those crickets I hear? Okay…let’s try another one: When was the last time you asked a sexual partner to adjust the way they were doing something? Time’s up. Wait – …

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Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm

Picture it: You’re hooking up and it’s just not happening: an orgasm remains out of reach. Maybe you’re feeling great and enjoying yourself, but you just can’t get there. Whatever is happening just isn’t making you feel good. In this situation, many women would pretend to have an orgasm. They might do it to hurry …

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Mom and Vibrator in the Same Sentence?

Times have changed. I mean, really, REALLY changed. When was the last time you saw a grown woman express her sexual frustration to her adult daughter on TV? Never? Well, enter one of (IMHO) the greatest series to ever hit the small screen – Jane the Virgin. Things were so steamy in S5 E6 (Chapter …

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On the Topic of Porn

Recently, a NY Times article ran that focused on our use of the word “porn” for so many other areas of our lives. “Food Porn,” “Real Estate Porn,” and even “Poverty Porn.” All of these have become a short-hand to describe a specific kind of relationship we have with pleasures or concerns in our life. The …

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Sex is Better When You Are Awake!

Sleep is essential for good health, and that includes our sexual well-being. It’s very difficult to rally for sex when you can barely keep your eyes open. Many of us know about the benefits of rest, yet an adequate night’s slumber often eludes us. Life events, work deadlines, family obligations, emotional concerns, hormonal shifts and …

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