Here’s An Idea: Getting off on TV

For some of our female patients, just hearing me say the word “porn” makes them cringe, look away and change the subject. At this point, I feel like I have lost them into an abyss of discomfort and the conversation about watching anything to get turned on hits a wall. So I thought, what about …

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Holiday Stress…What To Do About It.

I was once asked if more people seek talk therapy during the holiday season than at other times of the year. It’s a good question, since it doesn’t take much to set us off when expectations are so unreasonably high. Magic and peace and togetherness are pretty tall orders, and the American capitalism machine won’t …

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Snapping Back…

There’s been a lot of talk about resilience, flexibility, adaptability, creativity as it pertains to the on-going pandemic. These words have always applied to life in general as sadly we know that no one gets by in this world without some scars. Yet, “there are people who snap when they’re knocked down and those who …

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What’s the Deal with Fantasies?

People worry about their fantasy life way too much. I’m not sure when, or how, as a society, we lost our ability to distinguish between imagination and real life, but I know that loss of distinction affects us in many unhealthy ways. And, as a sex therapist, I’ll assure you, that your sex life is …

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Flexy Sexy

Peanut Butter and Jelly. Ben and Jerry. Meghan and Harry. Some things just go better together. The same can be said for flexibility and sex. When you think of this fine pairing, what comes to mind? The splits? Yogic athleticism? Double-jointedness? Sure, muscular-skeletal pliability may be an asset during sexual engagements. But I’m talking about …

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The Case For Vibrators

Vibrators have taken a bad rap. Truthfully, they can be the most useful and easy tool in a woman’s sexual arsenal. And yet, vibrators have been relegated to the sidelines. Is it because sometimes women think of them as “kinky?” Is it because women are afraid that the use of a vibrator will make their …

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SIM: “The Bold Type” and Strong Female Friendships

As someone who was raised on toxic female friendships like that of Blair Waldorff and Serena Van Der Woodsen, I think my outlook of what true friendship is would have been drastically different if I saw more relationships like that of Jane, Kat, and Sutton in The Bold Type.  These three girls, while working jobs …

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