Dating with cancer.

I recently read an article about dating that I really loved. I talk to many of our patients about dating and I have lots of thoughts and opinions on it all but what this author said is a beautiful message that I fully support. She talks about dating while she had breast cancer. She writes …

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“Come As You Are.”

I am really enjoying the book, Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski. She is a sex educator, teacher and author. She definitely comes from the educator perspective as opposed to a therapeutic perspective which I find interesting. She spends the first part of the book explaining women’s anatomy in depth and encouraging women to …

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Perv: part one.

I highly recommend the book Perv by Jesse Bering, The Sexual Deviant in All of Us. Bering includes many personal stories of growing up gay in America. He also explains and explores how one’s sexual interests are often formed and how each person’s sexual proclivities are, “as unique as their fingerprints.” I think this is …

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Marriage math.

John Gottman is one of the most well-known couples therapist. He has an institute in Seattle and has done enormous amounts of research on what makes couples successful. Gottman has found, “that marriages fall into the danger zone for divorce when the ratio of positive to negative interactions falls below five to one. Just by …

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Google data on sex.

In this recent article by Seth Stephen Davidovitz he concludes, after analyzing data from Google searches related to sex that, “if we (both men and women) were less insecure about it (sex) we might have more of it.” Yes! This is true. I see it all day long as a therapist who specializes in sex. …

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To fall out of love, do this!

I had to post this follow up article from The New Yorker! Firstly, because it’s funny and secondly, because this is the other side of intimacy. The other side of really knowing your partner is that you know their stories, you know their weaknesses, you know their strengths, you’ve lived through the ups and the …

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How to fall in love.

I love this article in the New York Times about how to fall in love. I love it because it describes exactly what I see day after day in my office. I often see couples in distress when they arrive but slowly with each passing session and week, I see them often start to choose …

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