Attachment research shows us that our need for a secure bond with our partner (or a caregiver) is essential.Continue Reading
Do Women Peak Sexually at an Older Age Than Men?
Do women peak sexually at an older age than men? I have discovered that it depends what one means by peak. Find out more!Continue Reading
Dating with cancer.
I recently read an article about dating that I really loved. I talk to many of our patients about dating and I have lots of thoughts and opinions on it all but what this author said is a beautiful message that I fully support. She talks about dating while she had breast cancer. She writes …Continue Reading
“Come As You Are.”
I am really enjoying the book, Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski. She is a sex educator, teacher and author. She definitely comes from the educator perspective as opposed to a therapeutic perspective which I find interesting. She spends the first part of the book explaining women’s anatomy in depth and encouraging women to …Continue Reading
Perv: part one.
I highly recommend the book Perv by Jesse Bering, The Sexual Deviant in All of Us. Bering includes many personal stories of growing up gay in America. He also explains and explores how one’s sexual interests are often formed and how each person’s sexual proclivities are, “as unique as their fingerprints.” I think this is …Continue Reading
John Gottman is one of the most well-known couples therapist. He has an institute in Seattle and has done enormous amounts of research on what makes couples successful. Gottman has found, “that marriages fall into the danger zone for divorce when the ratio of positive to negative interactions falls below five to one. Just by …Continue Reading
This teen got suspended after her amazing sex ed assignment.
One part of my job that I love is educating women about sex. Though we see women of all ages there are still many misconceptions about safe sexual practices. I often see women who struggle to use condoms though they know they should. Of course I understand why it is challenging but I also see …Continue Reading
Is couples therapy really about creating better communication?
Is couples therapy really about better communication? No! It is not. This is a commonly held misconception. A therapist named Linda Engelman wrote an excellent article on her blog called, “Four Reasons Communication skills wont save your relationship.” The gist is that the best communication in the world won’t heal the wounds that partners in …Continue Reading
Nothing is wrong with your sex drive?!?! Give me a break!
In a recent article in the New York Times entitled “Nothing Is Wrong With Your Sex Drive”, the author gave her opinion on the drug Flibanserin and her take on the history of low desire. My feeling is that this article may do many women a huge disservice. Unfortunately to assume that a woman’s low …Continue Reading
Google data on sex.
In this recent article by Seth Stephen Davidovitz he concludes, after analyzing data from Google searches related to sex that, “if we (both men and women) were less insecure about it (sex) we might have more of it.” Yes! This is true. I see it all day long as a therapist who specializes in sex. …Continue Reading