A New Insight into Date Rape

I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …

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The Myriad of New Sexual “Labels”

The NY Times recently did an article on Sapiosexuals – people’s whose erotic response is triggered by smart people. I could relate. I suppose I’m a heterosexual sapiosexual, I’m turned on by really smart men.  But it got me thinking about all the myriad of new sexual “labels”. Here’s a comprehensive list.  People who are attracted …

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Vaginismus: It’s Okay to Feel Angry

I have found something interesting while working with vaginismus patients. Many of them are angry. Most of them don’t seem angry when they first come in. They seem sad, hopeless, confused, and afraid. I most often have the urge to put my arms around them and say “It’ll be okay. I promise you.” But oftentimes …

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Porn Statistics

Call me a nerd but I am fascinated by statistics of internet searches on porn sites. I feel like ever since I read A Billion Wicked Thoughts, I am very sensitive to the fact that the only way to gather accurate data about who really likes what, who is really looking for what and what our habits are around …

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