The Case For Vibrators

Vibrators have taken a bad rap. Truthfully, they can be the most useful and easy tool in a woman’s sexual arsenal. And yet, vibrators have been relegated to the sidelines. Is it because sometimes women think of them as “kinky?” Is it because women are afraid that the use of a vibrator will make their …

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Want More Sex? Here’s a Tip…

Yesterday yet another woman told me that one of the reasons she doesn’t want to have sex with her husband is because she’s so self conscious. Sigh. She doesn’t feel great about her body and HE DOESN’T MAKE HER FEEL GREAT ABOUT HER BODY! He makes comments if she gains weight. He makes comments about …

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Low Libido after Childbirth

You know you used to be into sex. Yes, that was you, not someone else.  You remember thinking at one time, “wow, this is great!” But it just doesn’t seem to be happening that way anymore. Okay, you think, “so I had a baby (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, …

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Why did I write Sex Points?

“Why did you write this book Bat Sheva?” I get asked this question during nearly every interview or Podcast I do. And for a while I struggled for an answer. The real answer seemed so complicated: to help women, to assure women that they are normal, to give women answers to questions they didn’t even …

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3 Ways to Make Space for Sex

I recently collaborated with Fiera blog writer Kristy Lin Billuni to discuss where to have sex and different ways to make space for sex. Fiera is focused on helping women get their mind and body in the mood for sex again. It’s well known that the world we live in today is buzzing with distractions …

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Vibrators and Vaginismus

Besides starting with a V, most people would probably say that vibrators and vaginismus really have nothing to do with each other. But I’m here to tell you otherwise. Usually when we think of vibrators, we think of the models that go inside a vagina and, as a result, we don’t usually think of them …

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Meet Phexxi, Your New Best Friend

Introducing Phexxi: An FDA-Approved, non-hormonal, birth control option If you’ve been looking for a non-hormonal birth control option, Phexxi may be one to consider. Available as of September 2020, this FDA-approved vaginal gel contraceptive is significantly more effective than spermicides, the other topical (cream and gel) options. Phexxi is 93% Effective Phexxi is a cream …

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To the Partners of Vaginismus Patients

Your partner just found out that she has vaginismus. She is either relieved, devastated, or a combination of the two, depending on how much time she has spent avoiding the issue, jumping between health care providers, and trying to understand the condition. Now you are trying to understand what vaginismus is, figure out what your …

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Use It Or Lose It

You may have heard the term “use it or lose it” about your vagina and thought it was tongue in cheek. It isn’t. Recently, I was talking to some people in our marketing department and I mentioned the “use it or lose it” principal and they started to laugh. “Well that’s just an expression, isn’t …

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Tensing Your Body During Sex

It seems that part of having an orgasm for many women is tightening up their pelvic muscles. This is yet another example of one of those things that women do which they think is “weird.” Most women whom I’ve spoken with give me one of their “oh-my-g-d-you’re-not-going-to-believe-me” looks when they admit that they need to …

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