How To Initiate Sex

People often ask about how to be better at initiating sex — they aren’t sure how to do it and they want concrete ideas. They may feel shy, anxious or inhibited, sometimes because of past rejection, sometimes because they don’t think they’re good at it. So here are a just a few ideas that have …

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Top 5 Myths About Female Sexuality

There are far too many myths about female sexuality, most of which are outdated and blown way out of proportion. Here are the top 5 Myths About Female Sexuality debunked! MYTH 1 Most women have orgasms from vaginal intercourse. Even as I write this, I am shocked that this myth still needs to be busted.  …

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Low Libido after Childbirth

You know you used to be into sex. Yes, that was you, not someone else.  You remember thinking at one time, “wow, this is great!” But it just doesn’t seem to be happening that way anymore. Okay, you think, “so I had a baby (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, …

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For Better Sex, Get Rid of Foreplay

Now that I have your attention, let me explain. I know that at first glance this seems like the opposite of good advice, but I’m here with the hot take that to have better sex you need to get rid of foreplay. Now, to clarify, I don’t think we should be getting rid of the …

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Meet Phexxi, Your New Best Friend

Introducing Phexxi: An FDA-Approved, non-hormonal, birth control option If you’ve been looking for a non-hormonal birth control option, Phexxi may be one to consider. Available as of September 2020, this FDA-approved vaginal gel contraceptive is significantly more effective than spermicides, the other topical (cream and gel) options. Phexxi is 93% Effective Phexxi is a cream …

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Vaginismus and the Single Girl

Vaginismus is a condition where the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina involuntarily spasm. This makes penetration of any kind painful, difficult or seemingly impossible. There tends to be a fear component as well. Searching for the reason you have vaginismus is usually pointless. What’s not pointless is getting treatment because it’s very treatable. It …

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Can you be sedated for a Pap smear?

Let’s be honest.  No one enjoys getting a Pap smear.  Or a pelvic exam.  They can be uncomfortable at best, and at worst resemble a form of torture.  Many women experience intense pelvic pain with any kind of penetration, and for this group of gals – just the thought of a speculum can ignite a …

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Tensing Your Body During Sex

It seems that part of having an orgasm for many women is tightening up their pelvic muscles. This is yet another example of one of those things that women do which they think is “weird.” Most women whom I’ve spoken with give me one of their “oh-my-g-d-you’re-not-going-to-believe-me” looks when they admit that they need to …

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GGG: Good, Giving, Game – Aren’t we All?

A young female patient of mine has started head first into the world of online dating. Besides the usual ups and downs of navigating that ever-changing landscape, she also had some questions and confusion on what some of the terms individuals use to describe themselves (in her case she is interested in heterosexual men).  She …

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