The Long and the Short of It

Long-term relationships can bring security, friendship, warmth, and comfort. But, the term doesn’t often inspire visions of smokin’ hot desire and chandelier-swinging scenes. That said, partners who’ve been together for a long time don’t have to settle for the same old same old when it comes to their sex lives. There’s been plenty written about …

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Erotically Speaking

According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …

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Vibrators and Vaginismus

Besides starting with a V, most people would probably say that vibrators and vaginismus really have nothing to do with each other. But I’m here to tell you otherwise. Usually when we think of vibrators, we think of the models that go inside a vagina and, as a result, we don’t usually think of them …

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It’s Not All In Your Head, It’s In Your Brain! (Literally)

Testosterone Testosterone, the hormone of desire, has mistakenly been called “the male hormone”. Women’s ovaries and adrenal glands make lots of testosterone, we just have a lot less of it than men. Testosterone is the fuel that gets “the brain’s sexual engine” revving. When there’s a sufficient amount of testosterone, it accelerates the hypothalamus, activating …

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Under Pressure During Sex

Anxiety. Makes me anxious just to type the word. And I’m not the only one, by a long shot. The National Institute of Mental Health reported that in 2018: An estimated 19.1% of U.S. adults had any anxiety disorder in the past year. Past year prevalence of any anxiety disorder was higher for females (23.4%) …

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Herpes 101

Let’s talk about a largely misunderstood virus.  No, not THAT virus.  I am talking about the Herpes Virus.  As a clinician in Women’s Health, I often get many questions about sexually transmitted diseases and infections.  There is a lot of misinformation and false assumptions about herpes that I would like to clarify. Let’s bust some …

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Gay Women and Sexual Dysfunction

People have asked me if I would give different advice to gay women than I would to straight women. The short answer is no. The main difference is that any sexual problems can now be multiplied by two. Both people in the relationship might suffer from a pain condition, experience low desire, or find themselves …

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Cancer’s Effects on Sexual Health

How Hormones Impact Libido If you are a cancer survivor, chances are you are not alone in feeling that intimacy has been impacted.  Many women who suffer with, and have undergone treatment for breast, uterine, cervical and/or ovarian cancer often feel alone and isolated as they try to navigate sex and intimacy in their relationships.  …

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The Grocery List

Not a week goes by when we don’t hear a familiar refrain: “when I’m having sex, I just can’t focus. My mind goes to the grocery list, etc.”. Now, if women were talking about aphrodisiacs such as oysters and chocolate and the like, I’d be the first to applaud. But we know that the problem …

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