Erotically Speaking

According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …

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Vibrators and Vaginismus

Besides starting with a V, most people would probably say that vibrators and vaginismus really have nothing to do with each other. But I’m here to tell you otherwise. Usually when we think of vibrators, we think of the models that go inside a vagina and, as a result, we don’t usually think of them …

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Dilation Station

Vaginismus is defined as the involuntary spasm or contraction of the muscles that surround the vagina.  For women with this chronic condition, any kind of vaginal penetration can be painful – especially intercourse.  The key to treatment of vaginismus is what is known as “dilation.” This refers to the introduction of a series of graduated …

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Spicing Up Your Sex Life

It’s that time of year when people are thinking about their new year’s resolutions. And while there are lots of great ideas for what you can plan to accomplish in 2021 (just celebrating that it is no longer 2020 is a great start), might I suggest resolving to either improve or get more out of …

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It’s Not All In Your Head, It’s In Your Brain! (Literally)

Testosterone Testosterone, the hormone of desire, has mistakenly been called “the male hormone”. Women’s ovaries and adrenal glands make lots of testosterone, we just have a lot less of it than men. Testosterone is the fuel that gets “the brain’s sexual engine” revving. When there’s a sufficient amount of testosterone, it accelerates the hypothalamus, activating …

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Under Pressure During Sex

Anxiety. Makes me anxious just to type the word. And I’m not the only one, by a long shot. The National Institute of Mental Health reported that in 2018: An estimated 19.1% of U.S. adults had any anxiety disorder in the past year. Past year prevalence of any anxiety disorder was higher for females (23.4%) …

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Herpes 101

Let’s talk about a largely misunderstood virus.  No, not THAT virus.  I am talking about the Herpes Virus.  As a clinician in Women’s Health, I often get many questions about sexually transmitted diseases and infections.  There is a lot of misinformation and false assumptions about herpes that I would like to clarify. Let’s bust some …

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Gay Women and Sexual Dysfunction

People have asked me if I would give different advice to gay women than I would to straight women. The short answer is no. The main difference is that any sexual problems can now be multiplied by two. Both people in the relationship might suffer from a pain condition, experience low desire, or find themselves …

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