Whey We Need #MeToo

When I speak to acquaintances or meet new people and speak about my work as a therapist with survivors of sexual and gender based violence, I am often met with a strained face, and a “Wow, that must be really tough.”  But the reality is that while I do not think of the work as …

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What is Vulvodynia?

Vulvodynia is an unexplained pain at the vaginal opening for greater than 3 months.  Other terms are vulvar vestibulitis, vestibulodynia, or vulvar vestibulitis syndrome. Some studies show that as any as 16% of women have suffered from vulvodynia at some point in their lives, but it is difficult to estimate, because many women don’t report …

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Reviving “The Dining Dead”!

I regularly tune into Modern Love the Podcast. There was a recent episode titled “How The ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again”. It’s really scary when you and your significant other stop talking and sharing intimate conversation. Of course there’s tons of relationship advice out there. Here’s an interesting tidbit: Research has shown that when we …

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Can a UTI Cause Chronic Vulvar Pain?

I was recently asked if a urinary tract infection could lead to chronic vulvar pain. A urinary tract infection is when bacteria invades the urinary tract, and causes such symptoms as burning with urination, frequency of urination and the feeling of an urgent need to urinate. Although a urinary tract infection(UTI) does not cause any …

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Being There

One of the things I want to work on this year is creating space to slow down. Life is so fast paced and busyness abounds in our culture. The rat-race and our road runner society often don’t allow us moments to be fully present. Time is something we can never get back. So, let’s try …

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Therapy and Menstruation

As a therapist, I am often wary to ask my patients too many questions during our first visit. I know it is hard enough to open yourself up to someone new, and answer the many questions necessary to get to know someone in a therapeutic context. However, more and more I am starting to realize …

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Dyspareunia

“What is Dyspareunia” has probably not been an answer on Jeopardy, but I could be wrong. Dyspareunia is a general term that describes any pain during sexual intercourse. Symptoms can include: pain upon penetration, sudden pain after intercourse, deep pain during thrusting, and burning pain anywhere in the pelvis. It is essentially a “basket” diagnosis, as it …

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To Do

Especially around Holiday time we have so much happening and our To-Do list can begin to look like The Gettysburg Address! Take a breath and take note of The Real To – Do List: Sing Smile Keep learning Notice kindness Eat well Hope Count your blessings Laugh Love Love some more Keep adding to this …

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