Say Something!

On a recent episode of HGTV’s Fixer To Fabulous, Dave Marrs  playfully tells his wife, Jenny “your butt looks good in those jeans.” She smiles and thanks him for the compliment. After what seems like an eternal silence, Dave says “you can also tell me my butt looks good in my jeans, you know!”  While …

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The Case For Vibrators

Vibrators have taken a bad rap. Truthfully, they can be the most useful and easy tool in a woman’s sexual arsenal. And yet, vibrators have been relegated to the sidelines. Is it because sometimes women think of them as “kinky?” Is it because women are afraid that the use of a vibrator will make their …

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Put A Ring On It

There is a new kind of birth control on the market, and it’s called Annovera.  Annovera is a silicone ring, containing two female hormones, an estrogen (ethinyl estradiol) a progestin (segesterone acetate).  Like other rings on the market, it’s meant to be inserted into the vagina, and kept in place for 21 days.  Then removed …

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Vibe Resentment

Nope, not talking about buyer’s remorse. I’m talking about what I hear from some women when I ask if they use a vibrator. These conversations go a little something like this: “Well, I mean, I have one, but I don’t like it/I hate it/I don’t want anything to do with it”. “Why – what do …

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SIM: The White Lotus

SPOILER ALERT… So HBO set us off on yet another well-done adventure that focuses on shiny surfaces teeming with a things-aren’t-as-they-seem underbelly. The first season had a killer cast, the backdrop of the Four Seasons Maui Resort, a fascinating score and a very upstairs/downstairs approach to rich white people on vacation and the employees who …

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I’m Canceling Virginity

I hate the term “virgin.” And just so we’re all on the same page, the dictionary definition is “someone who has never had sexual intercourse.” As I’ve written before, there’s a lot more to sex than intercourse (like fingering, oral sex, etc.), and it seems ridiculous to me that we’re using this word to mean …

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SIM: “The Bold Type” and Strong Female Friendships

As someone who was raised on toxic female friendships like that of Blair Waldorff and Serena Van Der Woodsen, I think my outlook of what true friendship is would have been drastically different if I saw more relationships like that of Jane, Kat, and Sutton in The Bold Type.  These three girls, while working jobs …

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Hair, Hair Everywhere (or, Maybe Not)

To contemplate body hair – that is the question. The answer depends on several factors: Do you care about your body hair enough to even entertain the question? What cultural/societal/familial expectations do you experience, and do you seek to sustain them or choose another path? How are you most physically comfortable? Do you like hair …

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Vaginal Odors? What To Make of Them

Vaginal odors are something many women worry about.  Sometimes, women are concerned they aren’t cleaning down there properly, or that something else is wrong – do I have a vaginal infection? A UTI?  Did I eat something that made me stink?  None of these questions are silly, and most of the time the smell from …

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Radical Acceptance

Have you ever faced a long-term issue, say weight loss or something relational, that you simply can’t resolve no matter how hard you’ve tried? Often times, we attempt a variety of potential solutions but every single one of them falls short. And when we just can’t seem to remedy a problem, we experience everything from …

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