Partners in Vaginismus

It is common these days for a pregnant woman who is part of a couple to say “we’re pregnant”! Some people snicker and roll their eyes in response to this. True, her body is housing and will be laboring to have the baby, but “the couple” is having a baby. When a woman in a …

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Is The Mona Lisa Safe?

Recently there was an article in the NY Times which challenged the use of lasers for treating vaginal atrophy and other vaginal changes associated with menopause. The Mona Lisa Touch is an FDA approved device, although the treatment of vaginal atrophy is an off-label use of the laser therapy. The article suggested that the laser …

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Sex and Podcasts

While reading is one of my favorite things to do, I have to admit that I can’t read quite as much as I would like. While I still can’t replace reading with audio books, I have taken to listening to podcasts. As a therapist who specializes in sexuality I have found a particular interest in …

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More Sex and the City

It’s been 20 years since the show Sex and the City premiered and I miss it! I admit to watching reruns and can quote episodes verbatim by now but I want more. I really appreciated the relevance of the series. So when I came across The Update-Sex and the City Rebooted by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong …

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Kink Is Not Abuse

Strangling a partner, grabbing and pulling hair, and slapping someone all sound like forms of physical abuse, and indeed can be. In fact as someone who has worked with hundreds of survivors of intimate partner violence these activities are often what was described to me. Many of them finally left the abuser when their partner …

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Sex and Pizza

I am always searching for new ways of talking about sex, and sexual pleasure.  A Ted Talk by sex educator, Al Vernacchio discusses the ways we as an American society talk about sex.  He brought up the interesting notion that we often use Baseball as a way of talking about sex and sexual activity as …

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Getting To Know You

Tech advances in our digital age sometimes feel like being on a runaway train, but if you don’t hop on you get left behind. It seems like dating apps are a ride on that train! Dating apps are designed to find love, yet there’s an argument that online dating has killed romance. I hear both …

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What Should Go in the Vagina?

We live in the world of internet health, for good and bad. I admit to turning to the internet for medical advice. A rash on my arm, a strange feeling in my chest, and I turn to Dr. Google. However, in the end, the overwhelming amount of advice and strange ideas usually sends me straight …

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Touching

When sex between partners stops for whatever reason, it’s usually complex mix of causes, physical touch of any kind may fall by the wayside. I have heard this story many times at Maze Women’s Health. When sexual intimacy has gone missing for months or years these women tell me it feels “so weird, uncomfortable, and …

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The Right Condom Can Make All The Difference

I have been teaching sex education for years, and again and again I would get the same response as to why people don’t wear condoms: “It doesn’t feel the same.”  And indeed they were right.  Wearing condoms during intercourse is not the same as going without. The feelings and sensations are different, however with the …

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