Feelings……………….

Feelings have been the subject of poems, songs, dance, stories, books, movies and yet fully experiencing our feelings can be a mystery to us. Blame and criticism can inhibit our ability to feel our feelings. How we should and shouldn’t be feeling is a frequent refrain in our heads. Feelings are just what they are …

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Yes Virginia, Parents DO Have Sex!

Kids bring parents joy and love and hugs and kisses. And they also throw an epic wrench into the sex lives of even the most randy of couples.  As newborns, babies challenge our literal humanity with crying jags and sleep interruption the likes of which rival military torture. Then they begin to wiggle out of …

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Is the G-Spot Real? Depends on Who you Ask

Ask a woman about existence of the G-Spot, and you’ll likely either receive a firm confirmation or flat-out denial. Why is the G-Spot – after 68 years of it’s discovery by Ernst Grafenberg – still so controversial? This question speaks to how little we know about this area of the vagina that gives epic pleasure …

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Judy Blume and Puberty

Judy Blume’s 1970 classic “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret” is being adapted into a movie. Woohoo! I am one of the women for whom this sweet, funny, authentic story about preteenhood was a lifesaver. This book is like a good friend who is there to normalize our experience and to ease the anxiety …

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The Way You Want It

Look no further than your latest social media feed (or any other media, for that matter) and where you find the word “women”, it will likely be paired with another: “empowerment”.  Women are finding their voices like never before professionally, socially and even politically. But when it comes to intimacy, are we able to express …

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A New Look at Pap Smear Testing

Pap smear testing recommendations have changed quite a bit since I first started practicing 25 years ago. At that point, pap smears were done once or twice a year. But since that time, we have developed new screening techniques and tests as well as a better understanding of cervical cancer, which has allowed us to …

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Coconut Oil Saves the Day

I love coconut oil! I mean, is there anything that coconut oil can’t do? You can cook with it, it’s great for your skin, I’ve made lip balm and bath bombs out of it. And it makes a great lubricant! Click here for an interesting article about using coconut oil in the bedroom. Looking for …

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“Why I’m Done Trying to Be Man Enough”

October is Domestic Violence Month, but in our current socio-political climate, most of us don’t need a calendar announcement to be reminded of this insidious abuse. The #metoo movement, the recent Supreme Court Justice hearings, the fall from grace of several prominent business, entertainment and political leaders – all of these events mark a critical …

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Painful Sex? Don’t Suffer in Silence

Unfortunately, many women who experience painful intercourse suffer for months, even years, before finding relief. Many women persist with having painful intercourse in silence, some not even telling their partners, because they keep hoping it will get better on its own. Often, when women do seek treatment they feel that their concerns are brushed aside, …

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