Holiday Stress…What To Do About It.

I was once asked if more people seek talk therapy during the holiday season than at other times of the year. It’s a good question, since it doesn’t take much to set us off when expectations are so unreasonably high. Magic and peace and togetherness are pretty tall orders, and the American capitalism machine won’t …

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Flexy Sexy

Peanut Butter and Jelly. Ben and Jerry. Meghan and Harry. Some things just go better together. The same can be said for flexibility and sex. When you think of this fine pairing, what comes to mind? The splits? Yogic athleticism? Double-jointedness? Sure, muscular-skeletal pliability may be an asset during sexual engagements. But I’m talking about …

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Vibe Resentment

Nope, not talking about buyer’s remorse. I’m talking about what I hear from some women when I ask if they use a vibrator. These conversations go a little something like this: “Well, I mean, I have one, but I don’t like it/I hate it/I don’t want anything to do with it”. “Why – what do …

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SIM: The White Lotus

SPOILER ALERT… So HBO set us off on yet another well-done adventure that focuses on shiny surfaces teeming with a things-aren’t-as-they-seem underbelly. The first season had a killer cast, the backdrop of the Four Seasons Maui Resort, a fascinating score and a very upstairs/downstairs approach to rich white people on vacation and the employees who …

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Hair, Hair Everywhere (or, Maybe Not)

To contemplate body hair – that is the question. The answer depends on several factors: Do you care about your body hair enough to even entertain the question? What cultural/societal/familial expectations do you experience, and do you seek to sustain them or choose another path? How are you most physically comfortable? Do you like hair …

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Radical Acceptance

Have you ever faced a long-term issue, say weight loss or something relational, that you simply can’t resolve no matter how hard you’ve tried? Often times, we attempt a variety of potential solutions but every single one of them falls short. And when we just can’t seem to remedy a problem, we experience everything from …

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Bachelorette Uncovered: Katie Thurston

If you watched  Episode 3 of this season’s “The Bachelorette” on ABC, (SPOILER ALERT if you didn’t), then you saw a lot of what appear to be true confessions. The sharing sesh took place not during a one-on-one, nor did it happen via “private” camera commentary. This time, our courageous, no-bullshit warrior, Katie Thurston, cultivated …

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Choosing A Birth Control

While birth control options for women are far from perfect, they are indeed plentiful. IUDs, sponges, pills, implants, diaphragms – they are all available and they are looking at YOU, cis-gender-pregnancy-protection-seeking females! Several of them are very, very good at doing just what they’re supposed to – preventing an egg of yours and a sperm …

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The Pleasure Principle

In her most recent e-newsletter, Dr. Emily Morse (of “Sex with Emily” fame) asks readers to repeat after her and say “Pleasure is my birthright.” How did you react when you saw these words? Did you say without hesitation, “YES! YES IT IS!” Or maybe your response was less than enthusiastic, or maybe you even …

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