Quarantine and Chill?

There isn’t a single person on the planet whose life hasn’t been affected in some way by the the COVID-19 pandemic (and yes I’m sure you’re tired of hearing it!) Our lives have turned utterly upside down and everyone is struggling, whether in large or small ways. No matter what your demographic, the struggles are …

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Where Did It Go? 5 Reasons Couples Lose Their Spark

Stress: Stress and sex are like oil and water. I’m not talking about sexual tension; I mean the daily grind, the worry about health and finances and work demands and familial responsibilities. All the stuff that doesn’t leave much bandwidth for romance, especially under current circumstances. Lack of Acknowledgement: Remember when you first met your …

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New Patients

New patients sometimes look at me quizzically when I greet them in the waiting room and introduce myself as a behavioral therapist. After all, if they’re struggling with pelvic pain or discomfort, what’s the relevance of mental health care? I can appreciate their confusion. So, once we’re behind closed doors in the comfort of our …

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Did You Know?

Did you know that there is an app that showcases sexual radio plays? It’s called Dipsea and it. Is. Hot. From aural to oral (and everything in between). Did you know that most women can’t just turn on their desire at the drop of a hat? As a matter of fact, clinical sex therapist Rosemary …

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If You Like “Bridgerton,” Try This..

Finally finally FINALLY got to watch S1E1 of “Bridgerton.” Where have I been? Under a rock? More like under an entire quarry. But everyone’s running behind on at least a few objectives of late, am I right? Now, since literally everyone and their mother has written just about everything there is to say on the …

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The Long and the Short of It

Long-term relationships can bring security, friendship, warmth, and comfort. But, the term doesn’t often inspire visions of smokin’ hot desire and chandelier-swinging scenes. That said, partners who’ve been together for a long time don’t have to settle for the same old same old when it comes to their sex lives. There’s been plenty written about …

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Under Pressure During Sex

Anxiety. Makes me anxious just to type the word. And I’m not the only one, by a long shot. The National Institute of Mental Health reported that in 2018: An estimated 19.1% of U.S. adults had any anxiety disorder in the past year. Past year prevalence of any anxiety disorder was higher for females (23.4%) …

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The Grocery List

Not a week goes by when we don’t hear a familiar refrain: “when I’m having sex, I just can’t focus. My mind goes to the grocery list, etc.”. Now, if women were talking about aphrodisiacs such as oysters and chocolate and the like, I’d be the first to applaud. But we know that the problem …

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Sex in The Media: Little Fires Everywhere

Have you read the book by the incredible Celeste Ng?! Have you binged the Hulu series (produced by and starring the incomparable Kerry Washington and Reese Witherspoon)? If not, run, don’t walk! And bonus: there are some pretty stunning sex scenes in the screen version. Yes, they are expertly shot and acted, but I think …

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