The movement to get more women and girls into science and technology has created the successful STEM movement (Science Technology Engineering Mathematics), and the acronym STEM is becoming more and more popular and known nationwide. For centuries these fields have been dominated by men, however the last five years have shown real improvement in women …
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Remember the song in the musical Oklahoma “I’m Just A Girl Who Can’t Say No”? Aldo Annie is a woman who simply couldn’t turn down male attention against her better judgement. Offstage, saying “No” is an essential skill in the dating/relationship arena and in most areas of our lives. What’s so hard about saying no, …
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Even after years of doing this work, it still pains me deeply to see the behind-the-scenes of a couple coping with vaginismus. Vaginismus is one of those conditions that, upon hearing about it for the first time, it sounds bizarre to people; some obscure condition you’d read about in a magazine or book. Can’t have …
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Sexting may have a bad rap because of certain notorious sexters, but when used within a relationship it can be advantageous to the couple. Research demonstrates that sexting has an affirmative effect on sexual satisfaction. Here’s how it works: When you share alluring remarks, fantasies or sexy images it creates anticipation and incites excitement which …
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I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …
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One of the most common challenges facing relationships is finding time and communication avenues to explore issues that are difficult to speak about. Consequently, issues get swept under the rug, though they continue to fester and prop up at various moments. Sex is one of those topics that couples struggle with creating a space to …
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While we cannot choose everything, we do or feel in life, we do need to remind ourselves that we do have the capacity to choose and regulate how we feel from moment to moment more than we might think. Depression is real, and you cannot simply choose to “no longer be depressed.” Therapy, medication and …
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August 6 was International Friendship Day! I have written about a variety of dating apps and wouldn’t you know, there are friendship apps as well. As we move past college and experience life changes it becomes harder for women to develop friendships. Here are a few apps to help us make new friends: Hey! VINA …
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Dove has done some amazing work in helping women feel better about their bodies. This experiment is one of my favorite ones. It really highlights how much body image can be distorted, and what happens for people when they become aware of it in an obvious way. Having a good sex life is more than …
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I’m constantly stunned by the assertions people make about porn-watching with little to no data and very limited knowledge. I am also struck by all of the assumptions people make about people who watch porn. Here is an excellent piece written by a terrific colleague-therapist on one aspect of the “porn conundrum.” Wives of porn …
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