GGG: Good, Giving, Game – Aren’t we All?

A young female patient of mine has started head first into the world of online dating. Besides the usual ups and downs of navigating that ever-changing landscape, she also had some questions and confusion on what some of the terms individuals use to describe themselves (in her case she is interested in heterosexual men).  She …

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Finding Your Way

Whenever I use GPS on my phone, it takes a few moments for it to find my location. Otherwise, the app can’t help me get anywhere.  Sometimes, people avoid coming in for treatment because it can be scary to slow down and see where you’re at on the map; whether it’s an individual issue or …

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Happy Birthday Smiley Face!

The smiley face is 50 something years old. It was created by Harvey Ross Ball, an American graphic artist to raise employee morale at the company for which he worked. His design has become the most iconic version and there have been many variations since its inception. The notion that an idea can be conveyed …

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Another Attack on Healthy Sexuality

There are numerous things that continue to surprise me as a therapist. I have worked with hundreds of sexual assault survivors for over ten years, and very few ever reported the assaults.  There are numerous reasons for that, but one reason that continues to shock me is the shame these individuals feel in disclosing the …

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Women’s Sex Toys: Made by Women for Women

The movement to get more women and girls into science and technology has created the successful STEM movement (Science Technology Engineering Mathematics), and the acronym STEM is becoming more and more popular and known nationwide. For centuries these fields have been dominated by men, however the last five years have shown real improvement in women …

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I’m Just A Girl Who Can Say No

Remember the song in the musical Oklahoma “I’m Just A Girl Who Can’t Say No”? Aldo Annie is a woman who simply couldn’t turn down male attention against her better judgement. Offstage, saying “No” is an essential skill in the dating/relationship arena and in most areas of our lives. What’s so hard about saying no, …

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Vaginismus: Not So Weird

Even after years of doing this work, it still pains me deeply to see the behind-the-scenes of a couple coping with vaginismus.  Vaginismus is one of those conditions that, upon hearing about it for the first time, sounds bizarre to people, some obscure condition you’d read about in a magazine or book. Can’t have sex? …

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The Upside Of Sexting

Sexting may have a bad rap because of certain notorious sexters, but when used within a relationship it can be advantageous to the couple. Research demonstrates that sexting has an affirmative effect on sexual satisfaction. Here’s how it works: When you share alluring remarks, fantasies or sexy images it creates anticipation and incites excitement which …

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A New Insight into Date Rape

I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …

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Cleaning Under the Rug

One of the most common challenges facing relationships is finding time and communication avenues to explore issues that are difficult to speak about. Consequently, issues get swept under the rug, though they continue to fester and prop up at various moments.  Sex is one of those topics that couples struggle with creating a space to …

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