Better Sex Blog

Times are a changing (not fast enough) when it comes to including women of all body types in the media. We have our Dove commercials and our plus size models for starters. In my work at Maze Women’s Sexual Health, I hear countless stories from women and their negative relationship with their bodies. Recent studies …

Most of us are taught from a young age that negative emotions are bad, and we are not supposed to be angry or sad.  But the truth is we could not be feeling, loving human beings unless we felt those negative emotions.  How could we know what happiness is if we did not feel sadness?  …

Diversifying our material assets is a well-known concept. As it turns out, doing the same with relationships is a good idea as well. Finding a significant other is wonderful, but may not be enough for meeting all of our emotional needs. Having different people around to help with varying emotional tasks seems to be linked …

When I speak to acquaintances or meet new people and speak about my work as a therapist with survivors of sexual and gender based violence, I am often met with a strained face, and a “Wow, that must be really tough.”  But the reality is that while I do not think of the work as …

I regularly tune into Modern Love the Podcast. There was a recent episode titled “How The ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again”. It’s really scary when you and your significant other stop talking and sharing intimate conversation. Of course there’s tons of relationship advice out there. Here’s an interesting tidbit: Research has shown that when we …

When a woman’s desire for sex and ability to become aroused starts to diminish, it often doesn’t happen suddenly. More often, it’s subtle and gradual or happens in spurts. And because it’s so gradual and subtle, women often assume it’s “in their head” or somehow in their control and have a difficult time understanding that …

One of the things I want to work on this year is creating space to slow down. Life is so fast paced and busyness abounds in our culture. The rat-race and our road runner society often don’t allow us moments to be fully present. Time is something we can never get back. So, let’s try …

As a therapist, I am often wary to ask my patients too many questions during our first visit. I know it is hard enough to open yourself up to someone new, and answer the many questions necessary to get to know someone in a therapeutic context. However, more and more I am starting to realize …