The Way You Want It

Look no further than your latest social media feed (or any other media, for that matter) and where you find the word “women”, it will likely be paired with another: “empowerment”.  Women are finding their voices like never before professionally, socially and even politically. But when it comes to intimacy, are we able to express …

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Coconut Oil Saves the Day

I love coconut oil! I mean, is there anything that coconut oil can’t do? You can cook with it, it’s great for your skin, I’ve made lip balm and bath bombs out of it. And it makes a great lubricant! Click here for an interesting article about using coconut oil in the bedroom. Looking for …

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“Why I’m Done Trying to Be Man Enough”

October is Domestic Violence Month, but in our current socio-political climate, most of us don’t need a calendar announcement to be reminded of this insidious abuse. The #metoo movement, the recent Supreme Court Justice hearings, the fall from grace of several prominent business, entertainment and political leaders – all of these events mark a critical …

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#SpeakUp

Millions of us were glued to the TV when Dr. Christine Blasey Ford told her story. During the hearing, phone numbers flashed across our screens. These phone numbers were for sexual assault hotlines. The number of calls these hotlines were receiving increased during and after Dr. Ford’s hearing. Hashtags were created and they continue to …

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Sex and Podcasts

While reading is one of my favorite things to do, I have to admit that I can’t read quite as much as I would like. While I still can’t replace reading with audio books, I have taken to listening to podcasts. As a therapist who specializes in sexuality I have found a particular interest in …

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Kink Is Not Abuse

Strangling a partner, grabbing and pulling hair, and slapping someone all sound like forms of physical abuse, and indeed can be. In fact as someone who has worked with hundreds of survivors of intimate partner violence these activities are often what was described to me. Many of them finally left the abuser when their partner …

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Sex and Pizza

I am always searching for new ways of talking about sex, and sexual pleasure.  A Ted Talk by sex educator, Al Vernacchio discusses the ways we as an American society talk about sex.  He brought up the interesting notion that we often use Baseball as a way of talking about sex and sexual activity as …

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Getting To Know You

Tech advances in our digital age sometimes feel like being on a runaway train, but if you don’t hop on you get left behind. It seems like dating apps are a ride on that train! Dating apps are designed to find love, yet there’s an argument that online dating has killed romance. I hear both …

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