Babe, I’d like you to meet my…

I once spoke with a woman who bristled at my suggestion that she introduce her vibrator to her sexual partner. I inquired as to the source of her objection. She explained that she was afraid to hurt her partner’s feelings; that it might lead to feelings of inadequacy. She was deeply attracted to this person, …

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So You Want to Hook-Up in a Pandemic

Dating is real weird right now. I spent months (5 months, 1 week, and 3 days to be exact) quarantining with family, which was great, but not exactly conducive to dating or hooking-up. At one point, I reached a point of such desperation, that I actually had a conversation with my aunt and uncle (who …

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Dating in Quarantine: It’s Not All Bad

I’ve always wanted to live in a Jane Austen novel, but this is not what I had in mind. Sitting around all the time, a walk as the only form of entertainment, not being able to get too close to the person you’re dating, and everyone being scandalized by a slight touch of the hand. …

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We Need To Talk About Sex

Despite being inundated with sexual images and ideas on TV, movies, advertising, fashion, magazines, etc., sex remains a difficult subject to discuss. When a patient at Maze Women’s Health tells me she feels so relieved to have found an open space to talk about her sexual health, I feel gratified…and a bit sad. I’m glad …

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Dating in the Time of Coronavirus

With restaurants, bars, cafes, movie theaters, concert halls, and sports events off limits for now, how do we date? Here is an opportunity for creativity to thrive. We live in a most amazing technological time where we can see and communicate with each other without being in the same place. A coffee date can involve …

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Sex is for EVERYbody

Would you deny sleep to someone who has a disability*? How about water or oxygen? Of course not. So why would it ever be acceptable to deny sex to anyone – ANYONE – who wants to have it? Much of society still views those with physical disabilities as either not requiring physical pleasure or as …

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