It’s time to stop and recognize the good in our life, and what makes us happy now, not what could make us happy.
Continue ReadingHere’s An Idea: Getting off on TV
For some of our female patients, just hearing me say the word “porn” makes them cringe, look away and change the subject. At this point, I feel like I have lost them into an abyss of discomfort and the conversation about watching anything to get turned on hits a wall. So I thought, what about …
Continue ReadingTop 5 Myths About Female Sexuality
There are far too many myths about female sexuality, most of which are outdated and blown way out of proportion. Here are the top 5 Myths About Female Sexuality debunked! MYTH 1 Most women have orgasms from vaginal intercourse. Even as I write this, I am shocked that this myth still needs to be busted. …
Continue ReadingVulnerability Hangover
Vulnerability catches us at all the wrong times, or does it? I recently heard the term “vulnerability hangover” and completely related. There have been so many times I have felt like I tried something new or said something out of the ordinary and felt great about it at the moment. I felt empowered and really …
Continue ReadingSex and Podcasts
While reading is one of my favorite things to do, I have to admit that I can’t read quite as much as I would like. While I still can’t replace reading with audio books, I have taken to listening to podcasts. As a therapist who specializes in sexuality I have found a particular interest in …
Continue ReadingKink Is Not Abuse
Strangling a partner, grabbing and pulling hair, and slapping someone all sound like forms of physical abuse, and indeed can be. In fact as someone who has worked with hundreds of survivors of intimate partner violence these activities are often what was described to me. Many of them finally left the abuser when their partner …
Continue ReadingSex and Pizza
I am always searching for new ways of talking about sex, and sexual pleasure. A Ted Talk by sex educator, Al Vernacchio discusses the ways we as an American society talk about sex. He brought up the interesting notion that we often use Baseball as a way of talking about sex and sexual activity as …
Continue ReadingWhat Should Go in the Vagina?
We live in the world of internet health, for good and bad. I admit to turning to the internet for medical advice. A rash on my arm, a strange feeling in my chest, and I turn to Dr. Google. However, in the end, the overwhelming amount of advice and strange ideas usually sends me straight …
Continue ReadingThe Right Condom Can Make All The Difference
I have been teaching sex education for years, and again and again I would get the same response as to why people don’t wear condoms: “It doesn’t feel the same.” And indeed they were right. Wearing condoms during intercourse is not the same as going without. The feelings and sensations are different, however with the …
Continue ReadingLoving or at Least Liking Your Vagina
I can’t remember the first time I heard the word “vagina,” but I am sure like most girls I made a face, felt uncomfortable and didn’t even want to think that I had one. I do remember sitting at the lunch table in 6th grade and the boys talking about how vaginas (although I don’t …
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