What’s the Deal with Fantasies?

People worry about their fantasy life way too much. I’m not sure when, or how, as a society, we lost our ability to distinguish between imagination and real life, but I know that loss of distinction affects us in many unhealthy ways. And, as a sex therapist, I’ll assure you, that your sex life is …

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Contemplate, Then Masturbate!

We see you, Self Magazine! Their issue featured a fantastic and comprehensive article on masturbation and all the what’s, how’s and whys were at the party. We highly recommend you check it out and we recommend even more highly that you find some time to explore and play! Extra points to the authors for their inclusivity: …

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Babe, I’d like you to meet my…

I once spoke with a woman who bristled at my suggestion that she introduce her vibrator to her sexual partner. I inquired as to the source of her objection. She explained that she was afraid to hurt her partner’s feelings; that it might lead to feelings of inadequacy. She was deeply attracted to this person, …

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Vibing Through Quarantine

At this point in the shelter-at-home adventure, you’ve no doubt received copious amounts of advice on just about everything. Care and feeding of your sourdough starter? You’re covered. Kicking off your new accordion-playing career? The internet has your back. There’s even lots of sex and relationship guidance floating about. But let’s talk about something you …

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A Lesson in Orgasm Equity

Ah, the elusive orgasm.  For some, orgasmic release can be a challenge.  Orgasm for women centers around the clitoris.  Did you know that the clitoris is the ONLY organ in the human body (male or female) that is designed exclusively for pleasure?  Pretty awesome, we think!  The clitoris was actually not well understood until it …

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Orgasm Goals

Are you in the market for orgasmic improvement? Good for you –you get an A+ in the priorities department! But, let’s take a minute to explore what can sometimes pre-empt your ticket to paradise. Specifically, I’m talking about expectations. The Oxford Dictionary defines “expectation” as: “a strong belief that something will happen or be the …

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