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I once spoke with a woman who bristled at my suggestion that she introduce her vibrator to her sexual partner. I inquired as to the source of her objection. She explained that she was afraid to hurt her partner’s feelings; that it might lead to feelings of inadequacy. She was deeply attracted to this person, …

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Vibing Through Quarantine

At this point in the shelter-at-home adventure, you’ve no doubt received copious amounts of advice on just about everything. Care and feeding of your sourdough starter? You’re covered. Kicking off your new accordion-playing career? The internet has your back. There’s even lots of sex and relationship guidance floating about. But let’s talk about something you …

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A Lesson in Orgasm Equity

Ah, the elusive orgasm.  For some, orgasmic release can be a challenge.  Orgasm for women centers around the clitoris.  Did you know that the clitoris is the ONLY organ in the human body (male or female) that is designed exclusively for pleasure?  Pretty awesome, we think!  The clitoris was actually not well understood until it …

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Orgasm Goals

Are you in the market for orgasmic improvement? Good for you –you get an A+ in the priorities department! But, let’s take a minute to explore what can sometimes pre-empt your ticket to paradise. Specifically, I’m talking about expectations. The Oxford Dictionary defines “expectation” as: “a strong belief that something will happen or be the …

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Are you Clitorate?

If so, then you’re familiar with the following facts: The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings (comparatively, the penis has 4,000). The clitoris was only identified as an anatomical body part in 1998. The clitoris is the only part of the body that is designed solely for pleasure. When you consider this superhero of the …

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Tensing Your Body During Sex

It seems that part of having an orgasm for many women is tightening up their pelvic muscles. This is yet another example of one of those things that women do which they think is “weird.” Most women whom I’ve spoken with give me one of their “oh-my-g-d-you’re-not-going-to-believe-me” looks when they admit that they need to …

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Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm

Picture it: You’re hooking up and it’s just not happening: an orgasm remains out of reach. Maybe you’re feeling great and enjoying yourself, but you just can’t get there. Whatever is happening just isn’t making you feel good. In this situation, many women would pretend to have an orgasm. They might do it to hurry …

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What’s the Deal with ‘Toxic Masculinity’

If you were anywhere on social media in mid-January, you undoubtedly came across the new Gillette commercial. The men (and women, interestingly enough) who were offended by the ad felt that the ad was disparaging masculinity or ‘what it means to be a man.’ The ad attempts to display images of ‘toxic masculinity’ such as …

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