Low Desire Affects 1 out of 3 Women

At Maze Women’s Health, we treat women with the following sexual wellness concerns: low desire, low arousal, difficulty with orgasm, and pain. Often, there is some overlap and these conditions are nuanced and multi-factorial. I want to focus on “low desire” which affects one out of three women ( I’m  not talking about HSDD- hypo …

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Sex Naturally…

Selena Gomez has a song called “Naturally.” It has a catchy chorus: “You are the thunder and I am the lightning… Everything comes naturally. It comes naturally when you’re with me. Everything comes naturally, it comes naturally baby.” Ahh, this is so ideal, but is it for real?  These days, there are many products labeled …

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DOES IT HAVE TO BE ALL OR NOTHING ?

The human brain is inclined toward all or nothing thinking. It’s easier to have every decision be binary: True or False, A or B, Yes or No, Do or Don’t. Can there be anything in between? We are not robots, even though having to grapple with complex decisions makes life infinitely more challenging and confusing. …

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Check-in Time is Now

We all have that friend who is the “Hello, how am I?” type, the one who speaks incessantly about themselves, while most of us fall into the “Hello, how are you?” category. While this level of self-absorption may be extreme and annoying to the listener, ironically there are benefits to constantly checking in and having …

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Erotically Speaking

According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …

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It’s Not All In Your Head, It’s In Your Brain! (Literally)

Testosterone Testosterone, the hormone of desire, has mistakenly been called “the male hormone”. Women’s ovaries and adrenal glands make lots of testosterone, we just have a lot less of it than men. Testosterone is the fuel that gets “the brain’s sexual engine” revving. When there’s a sufficient amount of testosterone, it accelerates the hypothalamus, activating …

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Boys and Girls…And Sex

“It’s 10pm. Do You Know Where Your Children Are?” This was a 20-year running public service message on TV airing before the local news. I took this line at face value – check that your kids are home at night. Looking deeper, we need to check on where our kids are physically, but also emotionally, …

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Vaginismus and the Single Girl

Vaginismus is a condition where the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina involuntarily spasm. This makes penetration of any kind painful, difficult or seemingly impossible. There tends to be a fear component as well. Searching for the reason you have vaginismus is usually pointless. What’s not pointless is getting treatment because it’s very treatable. It …

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Make a Little Mischief

I recently signed up to receive a biweekly delivery of “Mischief Box” which is filled with vegetables and I never know exactly what’s inside until I open it (like on Chopped!). Being a creature of habit, the kind of person who dips her big toe slowly into the pool and not one to dive right …

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Why Not Use Lube?!

During the initial visit at Maze, I generally ask what lubricant is being used with sex. I get varying responses ranging from “none” (ouch!) to naming a product containing parabens or glycerin (ouch!). Using additional lubrication, even when there’s natural lubrication, helps make sexual activity more comfortable and enjoyable. The trick is creating a balance …

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