Erotically Speaking

According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …

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It’s Not All In Your Head, It’s In Your Brain! (Literally)

Testosterone Testosterone, the hormone of desire, has mistakenly been called “the male hormone”. Women’s ovaries and adrenal glands make lots of testosterone, we just have a lot less of it than men. Testosterone is the fuel that gets “the brain’s sexual engine” revving. When there’s a sufficient amount of testosterone, it accelerates the hypothalamus, activating …

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Boys and Girls…And Sex

“It’s 10pm. Do You Know Where Your Children Are?” This was a 20-year running public service message on TV airing before the local news. I took this line at face value – check that your kids are home at night. Looking deeper, we need to check on where our kids are physically, but also emotionally, …

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Vaginismus and the Single Girl

Vaginismus is a condition where the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina involuntarily spasm. This makes penetration of any kind painful, difficult or seemingly impossible. There tends to be a fear component as well. Searching for the reason you have vaginismus is usually pointless. What’s not pointless is getting treatment because it’s very treatable. It …

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Make a Little Mischief

I recently signed up to receive a biweekly delivery of “Mischief Box” which is filled with vegetables and I never know exactly what’s inside until I open it (like on Chopped!). Being a creature of habit, the kind of person who dips her big toe slowly into the pool and not one to dive right …

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Why Not Use Lube?!

During the initial visit at Maze, I generally ask what lubricant is being used with sex. I get varying responses ranging from “none” (ouch!) to naming a product containing parabens or glycerin (ouch!). Using additional lubrication, even when there’s natural lubrication, helps make sexual activity more comfortable and enjoyable. The trick is creating a balance …

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Sex In the Media: Sex, Explained on Netflix

Sex, Explained is a docuseries on Netflix that contains 5 episodes: fantasy, attraction, birth control, fertility, and childbirth. The Netflix series, narrated by Janelle Monae, presents both the scientific and psychological perspectives of each topic. Experts are interviewed and we hear about, for instance, why BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/ Submission, and Sadism/Masochism) can be a healthy …

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We Need To Talk About Sex

Despite being inundated with sexual images and ideas on TV, movies, advertising, fashion, magazines, etc., sex remains a difficult subject to discuss. When a patient at Maze Women’s Health tells me she feels so relieved to have found an open space to talk about her sexual health, I feel gratified…and a bit sad. I’m glad …

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Dating in the Time of Coronavirus

With restaurants, bars, cafes, movie theaters, concert halls, and sports events off limits for now, how do we date? Here is an opportunity for creativity to thrive. We live in a most amazing technological time where we can see and communicate with each other without being in the same place. A coffee date can involve …

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