I’m Just A Girl Who Can Say No

Remember the song in the musical Oklahoma “I’m Just A Girl Who Can’t Say No”? Aldo Annie is a woman who simply couldn’t turn down male attention against her better judgement. Offstage, saying “No” is an essential skill in the dating/relationship arena and in most areas of our lives. What’s so hard about saying no, …

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The Upside Of Sexting

Sexting may have a bad rap because of certain notorious sexters, but when used within a relationship it can be advantageous to the couple. Research demonstrates that sexting has an affirmative effect on sexual satisfaction. Here’s how it works: When you share alluring remarks, fantasies or sexy images it creates anticipation and incites excitement which …

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Finding Friendship

August 6 was International Friendship Day! I have written about a variety of dating apps and wouldn’t you know, there are friendship apps as well. As we move past college and experience life changes it becomes harder for women to develop friendships. Here are a few apps to help us make new friends: Hey! VINA …

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“What Choice Do I Have?!”

Choices, selections, options, plans, alternatives, opportunities. The common denominator of all these words is change.  We have been labeled as a disposable society where it is often easier and more efficient to discard what is broken rather than repair it. We can argue over whether that is indeed a good state of affairs, but for …

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Affirmative

Back in the day I laughed at Chris Farley’s character Stuart Smalley on SNL and his affirmation “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me”.  I laughed, but I also learned. Affirmations are powerful and can help change our state of mind, our mood and give us a sense of …

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Just Write!

We are fortunate that there are so many therapeutic methods to choose from. One of my favorites is the practice of “therapeutic journal writing”. Writing things down can mitigate tension as writing about powerful emotions helps release the intensity of these feelings. It also helps clarify our thoughts and feelings and illuminates the issue we …

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“Dear Stress, Let’s Break Up.”

When it comes to relationships, breaking up is hard to do! Even writing a Dear John letter to stress takes practice, determination, and maybe even some tears. There are many breathing exercises that can help with saying goodbye to stress. Here’s one I recently came across in Real Simple Magazine: When your negative voice gets …

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Haters Gonna Love!

We have all heard the phrase “opposites attract”, but it’s been my experience that finding common ground and sharing core values makes for ultimate compatibility. Enter ‘Hater’, a new dating app where “you can meet someone who hates the same stuff”! The app was thought up by Brendan Alper after he read a 2006 study …

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One Heart, Many Genders

I recently watched the mini-series “When We Rise”. The show follows the true life individual and political histories of various LGBT activists who were instrumental in the US civil rights movement. Going back further in our country’s history, I learned that all Native American societies acknowledged three to five gender roles : Female, male, Two …

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OSCARS AND KEGELS- AN UNLIKELY PAIR!

Every year, I eagerly wait to hear what treats will be inside the Oscar goody bag. Drum roll: This years’ Oscar swag bag included a limited edition Elvie which is a pelvic floor exercise tracker; a Fit Bit for kegels! The Elvie boasts “better core strength, control, and better sex “as it coaches you through your kegels and measures …

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