Attachment research shows us that our need for a secure bond with our partner (or a caregiver) is essential.
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One of The Most Effective Ways To Improve Your Relationship
There is research showing that marriages with good sex tend to be happier marriages. But of course, this begs the question: Is it the good relationship that produces better sex or is it better sex that results in a better relationship? As a sex therapist, I’d say that the answer is more complicated than you …
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In All This Sex Talk, Let’s Not Forget About Love
We don’t speak to our kids enough about sex, but you know what? We don’t speak to them enough about love either. And, if you would like those topics to be somewhat connected for your children, then you (the parents) really need to be talking to your kids about both! According to a report released today by Harvard …
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“Dear Stress, Let’s Break Up.”
When it comes to relationships, breaking up is hard to do! Even writing a Dear John letter to stress takes practice, determination, and maybe even some tears. There are many breathing exercises that can help with saying goodbye to stress. Here’s one I recently came across in Real Simple Magazine: When your negative voice gets …
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Americans are having Less Sex than they once did
A recent article in the Washington Post was striking – at least to me. People, across the board, in the U.S. are having less sex. “The decline in sexual activity was sharpest among people in their 50s, people with a college degree, people with school-age children, people in the South and those who do not …
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Riding through Life
Among the many myths that come along with marriage is the notion that once the search is over, the work over. That once you finally find that person, you can take a breath of relief, because the hard part is behind you. Some people experience some ‘beginner’s luck’ in the beginning of a relationship: …
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What We Can All Learn from Polyamory
I came across an interesting article recently about what we can all learn from polyamory. What is polyamory? Polyamory is defined as “a form of consensual non-monogamy that emphasizes emotional and sexual intimacy with multiple partners simultaneously, ideally with the knowledge of all parties involved.” While we may not all want to be in a polyamorous …
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Did You Know?
In our center, we often discuss—with our patients and amongst the staff– the myths and misconceptions people have around relationships and sexuality. But it’s hard to be aware of it, because you don’t know what you don’t know. And with the abundance of inaccurate sexual information all over the place, it’s difficult to get the …
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On Kissing
Why we kiss. How we kiss. When we kiss. You never knew that kissing could be so complicated. But it really is! Whether kissing is a prelude to sex, a way to assess your potential partner or not connected to sex but merely a way to stay intimate has been studied for years. And honestly, …
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IT’S ON US
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and it pains me that we even need to be aware of this in the first place. It’s crucial to recognize this issue and to become well informed, alert, attentive and to appreciate that our attitudes and culture still need much improvement. Our society continues to deprecate women and …
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