While I do lament that the days of the mixed tape are over, I have to say Spotify and Sound Cloud have proven to be pretty great replacements. Creating your own personal “Soundtrack” or “Play List” is not only free on these sites, but a great way to think about what songs make you feel …
Continue ReadingTestosterone Pellets: What You Need To Know
There are several FDA approved testosterone medications on the market for men. Zero for women. At the center, we only prescribe medications that have been approved by the FDA and are bioidentical. Testosterone pellets are a great alternative for women who have been using topical testosterone products and are tired of applying testosterone gel to …
Continue ReadingYoung Adults Make Better Sexual Health Decisions When They Understand Their Own Feelings
In the summer of 2015, I was honored to be asked to contribute to a new interactive online resource for young adults, Student Sexual Health 101. As an office practitioner who spends most of his time counseling individuals and couples, I appreciated the chance to bring the knowledge I’ve gained over the past 25+ years about …
Continue ReadingWhat’s Wrong With This Picture?
I was perusing the December 21 & 28 edition of The New Yorker, when I came across Harry Bliss’s cartoon of two women sitting in Sofi’s Café with the caption: “Lately, I feel like the only time I have to myself is when I’m having sex with Brian.” Click here to see the cartoon. Having time to …
Continue ReadingThe G Spot and Female Ejaculation
The argument over female ejaculation goes on and on and on. While no one really argues that some women “squirt” when they have orgasm, the scientific world seem split down the middle about what is in the ejaculate. Half the scientific world say that women’s secretions are primarily urine based, that is women pee while …
Continue ReadingNeed A New Year’s Resolution? Say Nice Things To Yourself!
We talk to ourselves all the time. ALL OF THE TIME! Not necessarily out loud, but the constant narrative we have going on in our heads is indeed “self-talk.” Yes, the self-talk that goes on in our heads is “talking” and can affect us as much as the words we utter out loud. It takes …
Continue ReadingPorcupine’s Dilemma
While listening to patients talk about how their desire to get close to someone is often constrained by their perceived need to “self-protect,” I couldn’t help but think of the Porcupine’s Dilemma, a parable made famous by German Philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer. This parable describes a cold winter day where a group of porcupines huddle together …
Continue ReadingWhy Couples Therapy Needs To Talk About Sex
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard of a couple in couples therapy with a therapist who never asked about sex, let’s just say I’d have many, many dollars. Yes, therapy should begin where the client is, and if a couple goes to therapy for a specific issue supposedly unrelated to sex, …
Continue ReadingGratitude For The Holidays
In the mental health profession, we sometimes refer to this time of year as the “busy season.” The holidays are often a time of stress and contact with family members that we usually only see during the “holidays.” Many patients who I have not seen in months call and ask if I have a few …
Continue ReadingAffairs: Can They Be Good For Everyone?
Affairs – they can be incredibly complicated. And the web that is woven can often involve more than the two people married to each other and the outside love interest. Last week, the ethicist in the NY Times responded to a letter written to him about an affair. I think he did a pretty good …
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