Being unavailable: The burden of vaginismus.

Like other types of sexual dysfunction, vaginismus can be like an ugly octopus that has multiple legs extending into various areas of a woman’s life. The effects can be pervasive and show up in her confidence, in her relationships, in her body image, in her sexuality, and her overall sense of well-being. Many patients have …

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The game isn’t over.

“Yikes, have you seen your vagina lately?” “You have the vagina of a ninety-year old woman.” “Can’t have intercourse? You’d make a great nun!” The above phrases were shared with me by patients and attributed to professionals they had consulted regarding their sexual dysfunction. Needless to say, the endeavors were not only futile in solving …

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A quick guide to IUDs.

An intrauterine device (IUD) is a small contraceptive T-shaped device that is inserted into the uterus for an extended period of time. IUDs either contain copper or the hormone levonorgestrel and are the most effective form of reversible birth control. There is one type of copper IUD called ParaGard. ParaGard can remain in the uterus …

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Woman Code.

I’m reading a fascinating book written by holistic health coach, Alisa Vitti. The title of the book is Woman Code and provides great advice and research on how to regulate menstrual cycles, clear up skin, lose weight, alleviate PMS, improve moods, and have better sex by following a whole-foods program. The idea behind following a whole-foods …

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Minus one.

When a couple faces sexual dysfunction, in one or both partners, it can be a difficult and heartbreaking journey that challenges the foundation of the relationship. But let’s talk about what sexual dysfunction means for a woman who is single. For most women it doesn’t just feel like there is no ‘plus one’ in the …

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Getting back in the game.

“Having sexual dysfunction made me check out from my body. Now that I’m better I realize that I had checked out from life too.” – MCFS Vaginismus Patient (consent obtained for this quote) Sexual satisfaction and self-actualization are very intertwined. Thus, when sexual dysfunction is in the picture, it’s no surprise that many women feel alienated from …

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Sex after cancer.

I see many women who are cancer survivors. Most of them feel that their post cancer sexual selves were never addressed. In fact, many were told, “you should be happy to be alive”, insinuating that they should stop focusing on any sexual dysfunction caused by cancer treatment. It is often very upsetting for them to …

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Fishing for the right answers.

I recently met a woman complaining of a long history of painful intercourse. Several years ago she finally had the courage to tell her doctor about it. The doctor responded by recommending that she go see a therapist. The woman met with a therapist and was asked all the typical intake questions. When the therapist …

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