Vulnerability catches us at all the wrong times, or does it? I recently heard the term “vulnerability hangover” and completely related. There have been so many times I have felt like I tried something new or said something out of the ordinary and felt great about it at the moment. I felt empowered and really …
Continue ReadingDownload A Little Meditation
At Maze Women’s Sexual Health we often suggest that our patients download the free app “Insight Timer”. It offers guided meditation and progressive relaxation which can relieve muscle tension as well as anxiety. The notion of meditation can feel daunting – sitting silent on pins and needles until you can’t stand it any longer! So, …
Continue ReadingNature’s Remedy
Times are a changing (not fast enough) when it comes to including women of all body types in the media. We have our Dove commercials and our plus size models for starters. In my work at Maze Women’s Sexual Health, I hear countless stories from women and their negative relationship with their bodies. Recent studies …
Continue ReadingDoes Good Sex Improve a Marriage or Does a Better Marriage Encourage a Good Sex Life?
I came across an article in the New York Times online about how marriages with good sex tend to be happier marriages. This really just confirmed what so many of us in the field already know: sex affects a marriage – big time. So, does a good sex life improve a marriage or does a …
Continue ReadingEmbracing Negative Emotions
Most of us are taught from a young age that negative emotions are bad, and we are not supposed to be angry or sad. But the truth is we could not be feeling, loving human beings unless we felt those negative emotions. How could we know what happiness is if we did not feel sadness? …
Continue ReadingWe Get By With A Lot Of Help From Our Friends
Diversifying our material assets is a well-known concept. As it turns out, doing the same with relationships is a good idea as well. Finding a significant other is wonderful, but may not be enough for meeting all of our emotional needs. Having different people around to help with varying emotional tasks seems to be linked …
Continue ReadingWhy We Need #MeToo
When I speak to acquaintances or meet new people and speak about my work as a therapist with survivors of sexual and gender based violence, I am often met with a strained face, and a “Wow, that must be really tough.” But the reality is that while I do not think of the work as …
Continue ReadingReviving “The Dining Dead”!
I regularly tune into Modern Love the Podcast. There was a recent episode titled “How The ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again”. It’s really scary when you and your significant other stop talking and sharing intimate conversation. Of course there’s tons of relationship advice out there. Here’s an interesting tidbit: Research has shown that when we …
Continue Reading“It’s All in Your Head” and Other Ways The System Beats You Up
When a woman’s desire for sex and ability to become aroused starts to diminish, it often doesn’t happen suddenly. More often, it’s subtle and gradual or happens in spurts. And because it’s so gradual and subtle, women often assume it’s “in their head” or somehow in their control and have a difficult time understanding that …
Continue ReadingBeing There
One of the things I want to work on this year is creating space to slow down. Life is so fast paced and busyness abounds in our culture. The rat-race and our road runner society often don’t allow us moments to be fully present. Time is something we can never get back. So, let’s try …
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