Yesterday yet another woman told me that one of the reasons she doesn’t want to have sex with her husband is because she’s so self conscious. Sigh. She doesn’t feel great about her body and HE DOESN’T MAKE HER FEEL GREAT ABOUT HER BODY! He makes comments if she gains weight. He makes comments about …
Continue ReadingSex in the Media: Ignore or Explore – “Sex/Life”
Okay, Everyone – I’m two eps in to this new Netflix offering and I can’t figure out which side I’m on. The good things about it are really, really, really good, but I’m also thrown by a few undeniably frustrating details. Let’s begin by accentuating the positive, shall we? Kudos to the Netflix content staff. …
Continue ReadingLow Libido after Childbirth
You know you used to be into sex. Yes, that was you, not someone else. You remember thinking at one time, “wow, this is great!” But it just doesn’t seem to be happening that way anymore. Okay, you think, “so I had a baby (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, …
Continue ReadingBachelorette Uncovered: Katie Thurston
If you watched Episode 3 of this season’s “The Bachelorette” on ABC, (SPOILER ALERT if you didn’t), then you saw a lot of what appear to be true confessions. The sharing sesh took place not during a one-on-one, nor did it happen via “private” camera commentary. This time, our courageous, no-bullshit warrior, Katie Thurston, cultivated …
Continue ReadingLet’s Talk During Sex, Baby
In rom-coms, the two romantic leads wordlessly fall into bed and just automatically know what the other wants. And while rom-coms may purport to be more realistic than a movie about dragons, it definitely requires magic to know what your partner wants without them telling you. But this is real life, and the only way …
Continue Reading“Just do it?”
I was recently having a conversation with an OB/GYN about low sexual desire in women. We were discussing treatment options, when he said; “I tell my patients to do it the Nike way, you know, Just do it.” I didn’t know what to say. I stood there in total silence, somewhat horrified and offended. Shocked …
Continue ReadingCelebrate Pride with a Queer Movie Night
Happy Pride everyone! While some cities will be having in-person Pride events this year, I’ll be sitting them out. I’ve never been one for crowds and I melt in the sun, so I’ll be celebrating in a different way: Queer movie night. Grab some wine (or the beverage of your choice) and some popcorn, and …
Continue ReadingFor Better Sex, Get Rid of Foreplay
Now that I have your attention, let me explain. I know that at first glance this seems like the opposite of good advice, but I’m here with the hot take that to have better sex you need to get rid of foreplay. Now, to clarify, I don’t think we should be getting rid of the …
Continue ReadingThe Pleasure Principle
In her most recent e-newsletter, Dr. Emily Morse (of “Sex with Emily” fame) asks readers to repeat after her and say “Pleasure is my birthright.” How did you react when you saw these words? Did you say without hesitation, “YES! YES IT IS!” Or maybe your response was less than enthusiastic, or maybe you even …
Continue ReadingBroken
It’s not uncommon to hear from our patients that they feel “broken” as a result of their sexual health issues. It’s true, sexual dysfunction can be confusing and isolating. It can stir up feelings of guilt and self-blame and it can wreak havoc on interpersonal relationships. But I argue – do chiropractors and cardiologists and …
Continue Reading