Going oral.

In her new book An Intimate Life, sex surrogate Cheryl Cohen Greene (the one portrayed by Helen Hunt in The Sessions) describes her work with a man who has been unable to get an erection with his wife. After much exploration, it is discovered that the source of his problem is a very simple one: …

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Attachment theory and addiction.

As any reader of my blogs know, I am obsessed with attachment theory. The basic reason being that I think it makes so much sense of relationships. For so long I thought love and relationships were mysterious and miraculous. I still think a relationship that works well is pretty much miraculous but the reason why …

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Your kids and talking about…sex!

So here is another mother’s blog talking about how her kids discovered sex. My daughter babysits for this family and loves them. When she saw this blog she forwarded it to me because she knew I’d love it. I think it’s worth a read. First of all, because it will make you laugh…and second, because …

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The Ziegarnik Effect.

John Gottman’s new book “What Makes Love Last” focuses on trust and betrayal. John Gottman is a couples therapist who does a great deal of research on what enables couples to maintain long term intimacy. He has written several books and this is his latest. In his book he discusses the Ziegarnik Effect. In the …

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“Quiet — The Power Of Introverts.”

I am writing yet another blog about introversion because it seems to me to be such an important aspect of who someone is. Author, Susan Cain, in her book Quiet, explains that the distinction between introverts and extroverts is born out of how one deals with stimulation. Cain clarifies that the term introvert describes a …

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After the affair: sex again?

Freud once said that when two people make love, there are six people in bed — the couple and their parents. After an affair, add a seventh: the ghost of the lover. Here are some ideas to help you pull your parents and the lover out from under the covers, warm up the space between you, …

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Is too much Serotonin a mood killer?

In Daniel Bergner’s latest book, What Do Women Want, I learned something new about what might be going on when women try to be sexual but find themselves distracted by thinking about other things. We often hear from them that while they were in the midst of trying to be sexual, they couldn’t turn down the voice in their …

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Lybrido — Are we making up the problem?

The New York Times recently ran an article about female libido and the race to develop a drug (Lybrido) that would help women want sex. There are so many arguments these days about women’s libidos. There are angry therapists, frustrated drug companies, sad women and lots and lots of confusion. Some therapists argue that drug …

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