I spend a lot of time with patients talking about fantasizing. For many women it’s not something they do naturally. It’s something that they have to learn. I’ve come to believe that fantasizing is a skill like many others. While some people take to it more naturally than others, everyone is capable of doing it …
Continue ReadingThe secret female hormone — Part 2.
In the book, The Secret Female Hormone, the author Dr. Maupin, also addresses the fact that testosterone may only be a part of the puzzle. She writes, “Relationships take work; they don’t just happen. Intimacy is much more than just lust or magical thinking. It may start with infatuation but that does not last. When …
Continue ReadingThe Secret Female Hormone — Part 1
For anyone interested in the hormonal treatment of low desire I highly recommend the book, “The Secret Female Hormone: How testosterone Can Change Your Life”, By Kathy Maupin. At the Center we have been treating low desire with hormones for nearly 15 years. We have seen how effective it can be to replace testosterone, when …
Continue ReadingWoman Code.
I’m reading a fascinating book written by holistic health coach, Alisa Vitti. The title of the book is Woman Code and provides great advice and research on how to regulate menstrual cycles, clear up skin, lose weight, alleviate PMS, improve moods, and have better sex by following a whole-foods program. The idea behind following a whole-foods …
Continue ReadingHow to love, and books that can help.
In my last blog entry, I talked about a hypothetical college course teaching young adults how to love. The more I think about this idea the more vital I think it is. Because so many marriages end in divorce wouldn’t it be helpful if young people had more education and guidance around such an important …
Continue ReadingOn talking to your (adult) kids about sex.
So here’s one to file under “great communication between mother and adult son.” A patient told us the other day that she had downloaded Fifty Shades of Grey to her kindle and really enjoyed reading it. Then she started laughing and said that when she downloaded the book, it hadn’t really occurred to her that …
Continue ReadingGoing oral.
In her new book An Intimate Life, sex surrogate Cheryl Cohen Greene (the one portrayed by Helen Hunt in The Sessions) describes her work with a man who has been unable to get an erection with his wife. After much exploration, it is discovered that the source of his problem is a very simple one: …
Continue ReadingAttachment theory and addiction.
As any reader of my blogs know, I am obsessed with attachment theory. The basic reason being that I think it makes so much sense of relationships. For so long I thought love and relationships were mysterious and miraculous. I still think a relationship that works well is pretty much miraculous but the reason why …
Continue ReadingYour kids and talking about…sex!
So here is another mother’s blog talking about how her kids discovered sex. My daughter babysits for this family and loves them. When she saw this blog she forwarded it to me because she knew I’d love it. I think it’s worth a read. First of all, because it will make you laugh…and second, because …
Continue ReadingThe Ziegarnik Effect.
John Gottman’s new book “What Makes Love Last” focuses on trust and betrayal. John Gottman is a couples therapist who does a great deal of research on what enables couples to maintain long term intimacy. He has written several books and this is his latest. In his book he discusses the Ziegarnik Effect. In the …
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