Author: Rachel Hercman, LCSW
Working with patients coping with all sorts of sexual issues, I frequently hear women talk about themselves in the context of their relationship with a similar formula: My worth as a person informs what I can expect/ask for in a relationship. And since a woman may feel like her self-worth is inferior because of sexual …
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Thanks to today’s social media, there’s an illusion of knowing all the details of what’s happening in other people’s lives: what they eat, where they’re headed for vacation, where they shop, what their mood is like, etc. This can mess with our heads because more often than not, the quality of people’s intimate relationships with …
Continue ReadingA man in his late 50’s goes to see a therapist for stress. After sitting through a few sessions, he finally musters up the guts to tell her what’s really bothering him. “So, I’ve noticed that since I turned 50, my libido has slowly disappeared.” The therapist, whether trained in sexual dysfunction or not, will …
Continue ReadingAn engaged friend once told me a story that happened a month before her wedding. She was going through the guest list and became anxious about the numbers since the list far exceeded the wedding hall’s capacity. Innocently, she took out her phone and sent her fiancé a short text message: We are so over. …
Continue ReadingOften times relationships will have conflicts around sex that stem from misconceptions around men and sex. Here are some truths about men and sex that can be surprising for some women to hear: Men want to be held too: Many times when there is sexual dysfunction the general affection in the relationship is affected. But …
Continue Reading“It’s just a phase”; an expression that after some digging, you’ll likely find anything from hope, relief, to total denial. By nature, relationships go through phases. From the time a relationship begins, it will experience countless phases over time and there will be a variety of the types of phases that are encountered. When a …
Continue ReadingThat’s like SO five years ago. — “Clueless” (1995) But does it FEEL like it was five years ago? (or ten or twenty or fifty…) In my work integrating EMDR (eye movement desensitization reprocessing therapy) with therapy patients, the results repeatedly highlight the reality that time does not heal all wounds. You can have an experience …
Continue ReadingI love this cute video on aging with humor and grace. The video is going viral on youtube and the woman who made the video, Donalou Stevens, has been getting countless e-mails from people around the world thanking her for spreading her positive message. Clearly people are feeling validated by the way her style, talent, …
Continue ReadingNow that the weather has gotten cooler, I find myself needing to moisturize my hands more regularly. Fortunately, there is a plethora of options on the market and I am grateful that there is effective treatment available for my dry hands. The other day I was thinking how it would sound if I told someone …
Continue ReadingWith the weather getting chillier and the days getting shorter, the long summer days are feeling more and more behind us. Fall is a beautiful season with its foliage, mild weather, and the positive feelings in the air as the holiday season is just around the corner. The fall season can be an important time …
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