Author: Nicole Tammelleo, MA, LCSW
As a therapist, I am often wary to ask my patients too many questions during our first visit. I know it is hard enough to open yourself up to someone new, and answer the many questions necessary to get to know someone in a therapeutic context. However, more and more I am starting to realize …
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Holiday shopping can be both fun, and stressful at the same time. Many people want to get just “the right gift,” or making sure that the person will be surprised at the uniqueness of their gift. So how about a vibrator? There are literally hundreds of vibrators on the market, and numerous websites selling them …
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There are so many myths surrounding Vaginismus, let’s try and bust them! Myth 1: VAGINIMUS is all “in your head.” Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. Those muscles are in …
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I am not sure where the myth came from that it is normal or “okay” for sex to “hurt.” I am sure I could take stab at it from a feminist angle, but right now I am more concerned about dispelling the myth. Sex should be associated with positive physical and feelings. If you are …
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A young female patient of mine has started head first into the world of online dating. Besides the usual ups and downs of navigating that ever-changing landscape, she also had some questions and confusion on what some of the terms individuals use to describe themselves (in her case she is interested in heterosexual men). She …
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October is both breast cancer awareness month as well as domestic violence awareness month. For many years now October has been filled with walks and runs to raise awareness for breast cancer research , buildings lit up with pink lights, and beautiful pink ribbons women and men proudly display on their t-shirts, hats, cars, etc. …
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There are numerous things that continue to surprise me as a therapist. I have worked with hundreds of sexual assault survivors for over ten years, and very few ever reported the assaults. There are numerous reasons for that, but one reason that continues to shock me is the shame these individuals feel in disclosing the …
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The movement to get more women and girls into science and technology has created the successful STEM movement (Science Technology Engineering Mathematics), and the acronym STEM is becoming more and more popular and known nationwide. For centuries these fields have been dominated by men, however the last five years have shown real improvement in women …
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While we cannot choose everything, we do or feel in life, we do need to remind ourselves that we do have the capacity to choose and regulate how we feel from moment to moment more than we might think. Depression is real, and you cannot simply choose to “no longer be depressed.” Therapy, medication and …
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So much energy and frustration is given to not being able to have intercourse with vaginismus, that many forget that sex is not just intercourse. While being treated for vaginismus and wanting to be able to have intercourse is a very important part of sexuality, there is more to sex than intercourse. Often, when I …
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