I’m Canceling Virginity

I hate the term “virgin.” And just so we’re all on the same page, the dictionary definition is “someone who has never had sexual intercourse.” As I’ve written before, there’s a lot more to sex than intercourse (like fingering, oral sex, etc.), and it seems ridiculous to me that we’re using this word to mean …

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Hair, Hair Everywhere (or, Maybe Not)

To contemplate body hair – that is the question. The answer depends on several factors: Do you care about your body hair enough to even entertain the question? What cultural/societal/familial expectations do you experience, and do you seek to sustain them or choose another path? How are you most physically comfortable? Do you like hair …

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Want More Sex? Here’s a Tip…

Yesterday yet another woman told me that one of the reasons she doesn’t want to have sex with her husband is because she’s so self conscious. Sigh. She doesn’t feel great about her body and HE DOESN’T MAKE HER FEEL GREAT ABOUT HER BODY! He makes comments if she gains weight. He makes comments about …

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The Secret Is Out

“In a study by the Melpomene Institute for Women’s Health Research, they found that 52% of girls with a poor body image almost always compare their appearance to others.”  I recently read that Victoria’s Secret is saying goodbye to its “Angels” and will be rebranding. It’s high time we rebrand what is “sexy”. At Maze …

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Bachelorette Uncovered: Katie Thurston

If you watched  Episode 3 of this season’s “The Bachelorette” on ABC, (SPOILER ALERT if you didn’t), then you saw a lot of what appear to be true confessions. The sharing sesh took place not during a one-on-one, nor did it happen via “private” camera commentary. This time, our courageous, no-bullshit warrior, Katie Thurston, cultivated …

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“Just do it?”

I was recently having a conversation with an OB/GYN about low sexual desire in women. We were discussing treatment options, when he said; “I tell my patients to do it the Nike way, you know, Just do it.” I didn’t know what to say. I stood there in total silence, somewhat horrified and offended. Shocked …

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Celebrate Pride with a Queer Movie Night

Happy Pride everyone! While some cities will be having in-person Pride events this year, I’ll be sitting them out. I’ve never been one for crowds and I melt in the sun, so I’ll be celebrating in a different way: Queer movie night. Grab some wine (or the beverage of your choice) and some popcorn, and …

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Do You Need To Label Your Sexuality? Here are the Pros & Cons

Gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, pansexual, straight–there are a lot of different sexual orientations out there (and these are just a few). For people thinking about their sexualities, these labels can be useful, affirming, confusing, unhelpful, or anything in between. Your sexuality is really personal, and only you get to label it–if you even want to …

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Choosing A Birth Control

While birth control options for women are far from perfect, they are indeed plentiful. IUDs, sponges, pills, implants, diaphragms – they are all available and they are looking at YOU, cis-gender-pregnancy-protection-seeking females! Several of them are very, very good at doing just what they’re supposed to – preventing an egg of yours and a sperm …

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