Here is the most significant thing to remember: sex is not just about what happens in the bedroom. My friend used to say that sex in a relationship is like the third leg of a stool. When it’s there, you don’t spend much time thinking about it, but when it’s gone the whole stool starts …
Continue ReadingCould your medications be affecting your mojo?
Low sex drive can be caused by multiple factors, which vary from patient to patient. Fatigue, the daily responsibilities and multiple roles women often assume, and many possible psychological causes can impact a woman’s sexual function. It is also known that certain health conditions and medications can affect a woman’s sexual desire. Depression and anxiety …
Continue ReadingMusings on where desire comes from.
I have been struggling mightily recently with a spate of Ultra-Orthodox women who are completely desireless…I mean totally, completely. Almost asexual. I told my husband the other night that I am embarrassed to admit it but I sometimes despair when I’m working with these patients. We help, but it’s such a struggle. Sometimes I feel …
Continue ReadingWhat drugs might be causing a problem in your sex life?
Let’s see. What drugs might be causing a problem in your sex life? There’s a whole list of SSRI’s, the NSRI’s, all birth control pills, the neuroplant, anti anxiety medications, and the list goes on and on and on and on. Here’s the deal. Many drugs can have a negative impact on your sex life. …
Continue ReadingTestosterone: The most misunderstood hormone.
I have spent a lot of time in the last few months analyzing testosterone research. The bottom line is we all need it for healthy sexual functioning. Men and women both make it and men and women both need it to have healthy sexual functioning. If either group does not have enough testosterone, his or …
Continue ReadingDoes long term monogamy kill eroticism?
Esther Perel, in her book, Mating In Captivity, seems to believe that it often does. She writes that in our quest for security and stability we become too close to our partners and we get too comfortable. In that process, she feels that individuals in a couple often stop viewing one another as exciting. She …
Continue ReadingDr. Bat Sheva Marcus interviewed by CBS News on female sexual desire.
Last week, Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, who has been the clinical director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality for 10 years, was interviewed by CBS Channel 2 News in New York regarding the expected upcoming approval of a treatment for low sexual desire in women. Flibanserin, manufactured by the pharmaceutical company Boehringer Ingelheim, is …
Continue ReadingDesire and depression.
Sometimes, when women come into the center with low desire we talk to them about anti=depressants. The reaction isn’t always good: “You think I’m depressed? I’mhere to talk about my lack of sex drive!” Life situations and hormones can play a role in depression. Serotonin, the hormone normally associated with depression, isn’t the only culprit. …
Continue ReadingAnd the survey says……Sex!
Why is it that we need a survey to prove that women are interested in sex? And when we get the data, why is everyone so surprised at the results? A new online survey asked 500 women aged 35 to 49 about their interest in sex, and whaddaya know, 76% of women are “interested in …
Continue ReadingBioidentical hormones.
There is so much confusion and misinformation when it comes to “bioidentical hormones.” Let me see if I can set the record straight. “Bioidentical hormones” does not mean that the hormones are “organic.” “Bioidentical hormones” does not mean that the hormones are “natural.” “Bioidentical hormones” does not mean that the hormones are “not really hormones.” …
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