We see you, Self Magazine! Their issue featured a fantastic and comprehensive article on masturbation and all the what’s, how’s and whys were at the party. We highly recommend you check it out and we recommend even more highly that you find some time to explore and play! Extra points to the authors for their inclusivity: …
Continue ReadingSex Naturally…
Selena Gomez has a song called “Naturally.” It has a catchy chorus: “You are the thunder and I am the lightning… Everything comes naturally. It comes naturally when you’re with me. Everything comes naturally, it comes naturally baby.” Ahh, this is so ideal, but is it for real? These days, there are many products labeled …
Continue ReadingWhat’s the difference between Low Libido & Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?
Did you know that 43 percent of all women experience some form of sexual dysfunction? Hypoactive (low) Sexual Desire Disorder [HSDD], characterized as frustrating low libido, is the most common form of sexual dysfunction in premenopausal women. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD), is believed to be caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain. …
Continue ReadingMyth Busting: You CAN Get Pregnant During Your Period
A lot of us grow up hearing all sorts of myths about sex, and since many of us don’t get comprehensive sex education, some of these untruths never get corrected. Today, I’m here to change that! Well, I am not going be able to teach you everything you need to know about sex, but I …
Continue ReadingQuarantine and Chill?
There isn’t a single person on the planet whose life hasn’t been affected in some way by the the COVID-19 pandemic (and yes I’m sure you’re tired of hearing it!) Our lives have turned utterly upside down and everyone is struggling, whether in large or small ways. No matter what your demographic, the struggles are …
Continue ReadingDOES IT HAVE TO BE ALL OR NOTHING ?
The human brain is inclined toward all or nothing thinking. It’s easier to have every decision be binary: True or False, A or B, Yes or No, Do or Don’t. Can there be anything in between? We are not robots, even though having to grapple with complex decisions makes life infinitely more challenging and confusing. …
Continue ReadingWhy did I write Sex Points?
“Why did you write this book Bat Sheva?” I get asked this question during nearly every interview or Podcast I do. And for a while I struggled for an answer. The real answer seemed so complicated: to help women, to assure women that they are normal, to give women answers to questions they didn’t even …
Continue ReadingWhere Did It Go? 5 Reasons Couples Lose Their Spark
Stress: Stress and sex are like oil and water. I’m not talking about sexual tension; I mean the daily grind, the worry about health and finances and work demands and familial responsibilities. All the stuff that doesn’t leave much bandwidth for romance, especially under current circumstances. Lack of Acknowledgement: Remember when you first met your …
Continue ReadingWhat No One Tells You About Sex
To say that in America we’re bad at talking frankly and openly and honestly about sex would be the understatement of the century. Somewhere in the realm of “the past year has been wild.” Most students in the US don’t receive comprehensive sex ed and aren’t given a space to learn and talk about sex, …
Continue ReadingNew Patients
New patients sometimes look at me quizzically when I greet them in the waiting room and introduce myself as a behavioral therapist. After all, if they’re struggling with pelvic pain or discomfort, what’s the relevance of mental health care? I can appreciate their confusion. So, once we’re behind closed doors in the comfort of our …
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