If so, then you’re familiar with the following facts: The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings (comparatively, the penis has 4,000). The clitoris was only identified as an anatomical body part in 1998. The clitoris is the only part of the body that is designed solely for pleasure. When you consider this superhero of the …
Continue ReadingRed Hot off the Press
February is American Heart Month, and the Go Red for Women campaign raises awareness for women’s heart disease. Most people unfortunately still think of heart disease as a men’s health issue, but the truth is that more women die from cardiovascular disease (CVD) than men! In that spirit, I would like to make mention of …
Continue ReadingUse It Or Lose It
You may have heard the term “use it or lose it” about your vagina and thought it was tongue in cheek. It isn’t. Recently, I was talking to some people in our marketing department and I mentioned the “use it or lose it” principal and they started to laugh. “Well that’s just an expression, isn’t …
Continue ReadingTensing Your Body During Sex
It seems that part of having an orgasm for many women is tightening up their pelvic muscles. This is yet another example of one of those things that women do which they think is “weird.” Most women whom I’ve spoken with give me one of their “oh-my-g-d-you’re-not-going-to-believe-me” looks when they admit that they need to …
Continue ReadingThings You Should Have Learned in Sex Ed (but probably didn’t)
If you’re anything like a large proportion of people who’ve made it through the American schooling system, you probably didn’t have a robust or informative sex ed experience. So, here is a list of some things you should have learned in sex ed, but probably didn’t. Pee after sex. I don’t remember how or when …
Continue ReadingHave a Heart – The origin of the heart shape
These days, many of us are researching our genetic roots through Ancestry.com, 23 and Me and other genealogical sites. People want to know where they and everything else came from. With Valentine’s Day approaching I see hearts everywhere! So, I’m wondering where the heart shape, the symbol of love known all around the world, originated. …
Continue ReadingSex is for EVERYbody
Would you deny sleep to someone who has a disability*? How about water or oxygen? Of course not. So why would it ever be acceptable to deny sex to anyone – ANYONE – who wants to have it? Much of society still views those with physical disabilities as either not requiring physical pleasure or as …
Continue ReadingI Guess That’s Why They Call It The Blues – Sadness After Sex Explained
Rolling like thunder under the covers may leave some women with the post-sex blues. Even when love making feels good and you are crazy about your partner, “postcoital dysphoria” can rear its head. The feelings can be sadness, depression, anger, and anxiety. They are especially confusing because you think that sex should leave you feeling …
Continue ReadingSexual Double Standards Still Prevalent as We Enter a New Decade
Most of us can agree that sexual health is an integral part of general wellness. And with the “self-care generation” now taking the reins, we can certainly expect that women will be demanding more when it comes to accessing sexual wellness. However, a pervasive gendered double-standard continues to stand in the path of some female …
Continue ReadingSex Therapy or Sexual Medicine – Why not both?
I must say that I find it difficult when psychotherapists (a category in which I include myself) are so dismissive of drugs to aid in solving complex sexual problems. Why do we assume a binary trade-off between “the mind” and “the body?” It should be clear to all of us that both work in tandem, …
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