Porcupine’s Dilemma

While listening to patients talk about how their desire to get close to someone is often constrained by their perceived need to “self-protect,” I couldn’t help but think of the Porcupine’s Dilemma, a parable made famous by German Philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer. This parable describes a cold winter day where a group of porcupines huddle together …

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“Am I normal?”

One of the most common questions I hear is, “Am I normal”? Whether it’s discussion around low libido, difficulty getting aroused, trouble with orgasm, painful intercourse, or general dating and relationship issues, the desire for validation and reassurance is part of the human experience. Often behind the question of being normal lies a deeper, more …

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