We’ve long been familiar with the gender wage gap; we hear about it regularly in the mainstream media and may even discuss it with our family and friends. But in recent years, a new ‘gender gap’ has started to receive more focus and attention – the orgasm gap. Sociologists and researchers have been increasingly interested …
Continue ReadingVibrators for the Holidays
Holiday shopping can be both fun, and stressful at the same time. Many people want to get just “the right gift,” or making sure that the person will be surprised at the uniqueness of their gift. So how about a vibrator? There are literally hundreds of vibrators on the market, and numerous websites selling them …
Continue ReadingFantasies… Fantasies… Fantasies…
When I fantasize about something, does that mean that I really want that thing to happen? (I get asked this all the time!) NO. No. And no. All it means is that you like to fantasize about that activity/act/event. Now, very commonly women get upset about their fantasies because they think that they are not …
Continue ReadingIn a Fight with Your Vagina
Imagine a friend who starts flaking on your plans with no real explanation. After a continued pattern, you get fed up and decide that you are no longer going to make any plans with her and set yourself up for disappointment. There may have been positive memories of the past, times where you really enjoyed …
Continue ReadingAre better female orgasms possible? Research may hold the answer.
I try not to spend too much time on the internet clicking on the many links and posts that read “Better Orgasms,” but this link seemed a bit more academic and possibly might be worth a look. In the article “Building a Better Female Orgasm” we are introduced to research on the mind-body connection to …
Continue ReadingShe learned to have an orgasm. And so can you.
This was an article written about one of my very favorite patients of all time. She was smart, she was funny, she was warm, she was real and she STUCK WITH IT. Learning to have an orgasm the first time can be really tricky. It’s like a new pathway the brain needs to learn and …
Continue ReadingJust Because You’re Over the Hump Doesn’t Mean the Hump is Over
Looking around at messages in the media, it appears that we live in an anti-aging society. The desire to look and feel young has translated into a billion dollar industry in numerous fields, with people vying to find the fountain of youth on the presumption that life is inherently more fun when you’re young. Among …
Continue ReadingThe Perk of Predictability
Sometimes unpredictability makes life more fun, adventurous, and interesting. But when it comes to sexual dysfunction, unpredictability can intensify the emotional pain and lead to continued avoidance and distance. When you can’t trust that your body and mind will show up for sex the way you hope, it may make you want to say, why …
Continue ReadingDid You Know?
In our center, we often discuss—with our patients and amongst the staff– the myths and misconceptions people have around relationships and sexuality. But it’s hard to be aware of it, because you don’t know what you don’t know. And with the abundance of inaccurate sexual information all over the place, it’s difficult to get the …
Continue ReadingSex in a New World
So, you’re single again. The last time you thought about sleeping with someone you were wondering how to muffle the snoring. The idea of sex was just that, an idea. You never imagined thinking about STDs and lingerie again! The good news is you get to date again. The even better news is that you …
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