It happened again today. A patient told me she was enjoying sex with her husband but that sometimes it was a little bit frustrating. When I asked her to explain she said “Well sometimes I don’t orgasm before he does or sometime I do orgasm before we have intercourse but then he has an orgasm …
Continue ReadingHow your birth control pills could be preventing pregnancy and your interest in sex!
I am seeing an increase of younger patients coming to our office complaining of low desire or having no interest in sex. Some of these patients are in their early 20’s. Yup…20’s. Hormone levels naturally begin to decline in your 30’s, so what is going on? Although it is difficult to isolate one major cause …
Continue ReadingMemo: Menopause does NOT have a monopoly on hormonal imbalance.
A few months ago, I met a nice woman who was coming to us for treatment for low desire. She had been feeling a decrease in her sexual interest over several years and brought it up at her yearly physical more than once. But when she asked her doctor if it could be hormone-related, she …
Continue ReadingThe difference between desire and arousal.
It happens every few days. A woman comes in and says that she has a problem with “my desire.” Then she goes on to say that she really wants to have sex, but she just doesn’t get turned on or it takes forever to get turned on, “so you see…” she sighs. “I have a …
Continue ReadingShe Comes First.
She Comes First, by Ian Kerner is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. The book is modeled after another book by …
Continue ReadingMen vs women.
A recent NY Times opinion piece discussed how much of our sex-related behavior is “hard-wired.” The articles questioned those behaviors which we believe to be inherited in men vs. women. For example we know that men think about sex way more often than women do, and we’ve seen studies that show that men are way less …
Continue ReadingThe art of the quickie.
A patient told me a story this morning. She and her husband usually have sex about two times a week. Generally, it’s Saturday night and one other night during the week, either when they go to bed, or if their teenage kids happen to be out one evening. Last week, her husband approached her on …
Continue ReadingMasturbation-in-training.
Have you heard of Betty Dodson? She’s an 80-something woman, author of two books about sex and the self-described Queen of Masturbation. This link was sent to me by one of my young friends in college who always makes me smile, and I thought I’d pass it along: Bottom line, the author of the article …
Continue ReadingTeaching about vibrators.
One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …
Continue ReadingMirror, mirror on the wall.
Ever notice the facial expressions of little girls dressing up as princesses? Pure confidence. You won’t hear self-deprecating talk about whether they have the right figure to be a princess. Or if they need hair extensions to pull off the look. Or if they look royal despite missing a few teeth. What matters is that …
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