Most women (hovering somewhere around 96%) can have orgasms. There is a direct correlation between ability to experience orgasm and sexual satisfaction (as most women who have them will generally assure you.) The corollary, that the inability to achieve orgasm lowers a woman’s level sexual satisfaction, is also true. If you’re struggling with any orgasm …
Continue ReadingOrgasm fairy tales and the movies – Part I.
You watched a movie last night and you are wondering, yet again, why the woman in the movie was writhing, screaming and moaning when she reached orgasm and why, let’s be honest, your orgasms seem so pale in comparison. Or worse yet, why you are not having orgasms at all. There are many parts of …
Continue ReadingThe inner workings of an orgasm — watch here!
Ever wonder how an orgasm works? Here’s your opportunity to get a speedy, fun overview of the process. I don’t promise you will understand the whole thing, but it does give you a sense of how complicated a process it is…and it will also probably make you smile! Even if you never have experienced an …
Continue ReadingHow many women use vibrators?
“More than half of 2,056 women, aged 18 to 60, used a vibrator either during masturbation or intercourse, says Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, who led the survey.” If more than half of all women use vibrators, why is there still such a …
Continue ReadingAsk for it.
We had a patient today who told us that her sex life had improved significantly but that sometimes she just wanted more. I pushed her a bit to talk about what “more” was for her and she struggled with the answer. Finally she sighed. “I guess, like, sometimes I want more orgasms.” I looked at …
Continue ReadingCan Wellbutrin improve sexual functioning?
Wellbutrin is in a class of drugs known as serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors, or NSRI. It is commonly prescribed as an anti-depressant and well known as a drug that can help people stop smoking. Simply speaking, Wellbutrin works by raising dopamine levels. What many people don’t know is that dopamine levels are closely linked to arousal …
Continue ReadingAre you done when he’s done?
It happened again today. A patient told me she was enjoying sex with her husband but that sometimes it was a little bit frustrating. When I asked her to explain she said “Well sometimes I don’t orgasm before he does or sometime I do orgasm before we have intercourse but then he has an orgasm …
Continue ReadingSexual satisfaction is not a ‘piece of cake’.
In the last few weeks, two Midwest universities — University of Minnesota and University of Illinois — have caused a media storm as the result of sponsoring on-campus orgasm workshops for students to learn about how to achieve an orgasm as well as other pointers for having a satisfactory sex life. The reaction among parents, lawmakers and …
Continue ReadingThe difference between desire and arousal.
It happens every few days. A woman comes in and says that she has a problem with “my desire.” Then she goes on to say that she really wants to have sex, but she just doesn’t get turned on or it takes forever to get turned on, “so you see…” she sighs. “I have a …
Continue ReadingShe Comes First.
She Comes First, by Ian Kerner is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. The book is modeled after another book by …
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