Sometimes unpredictability makes life more fun, adventurous, and interesting. But when it comes to sexual dysfunction, unpredictability can intensify the emotional pain and lead to continued avoidance and distance. When you can’t trust that your body and mind will show up for sex the way you hope, it may make you want to say, why …
Continue ReadingDid You Know?
In our center, we often discuss—with our patients and amongst the staff– the myths and misconceptions people have around relationships and sexuality. But it’s hard to be aware of it, because you don’t know what you don’t know. And with the abundance of inaccurate sexual information all over the place, it’s difficult to get the …
Continue ReadingSex in a New World
So, you’re single again. The last time you thought about sleeping with someone you were wondering how to muffle the snoring. The idea of sex was just that, an idea. You never imagined thinking about STDs and lingerie again! The good news is you get to date again. The even better news is that you …
Continue ReadingFemale Orgasms: As Unique as a Snowflakes
The decades old myth that clitoral orgasms are not “as good” as vaginal orgasms continues to pervade popular culture. However, a new clinical study has taken a different approach to “categorizing female orgasms” and studied physiologic sexual responses in women. In their article entitled “The Whole versus the sum of the parts: towards resolving the …
Continue ReadingA Vibrator Alarm Clock- Forget the coffee and the loud alarm clock
Forget the caffeine and the blaring sounds of your alarm clock, why not rise and shine with an orgasm. Yes, it is possible with the help of a small but odd shaped device called The Little Rooster S. The Little Rooster S was invented by mastermind Tony Maggs who invented this devise for his girlfriend …
Continue ReadingHow to Have an Orgasm
There are so many books on how to have an orgasm that I sometimes feel I could start an orgasm library, you know, a whole library with just books on orgasm. Some of the books are great and helpful. Some of them, less so. But when I’m talking to women about becoming orgasmic, there are …
Continue ReadingAn evolutionary approach to Orgasm?
Since I have started working in this field I’ve been fascinated by the science behind the development of female orgasm. And frankly, I think I’ve read every book available on the subject. I’ve never really found any of the current theories convincing. Well the NY Times recently did a piece on a new scientific theory …
Continue ReadingHelping Women Learn to be Their Best Authentic Selves
Most of the advice and information about female sexuality found on the internet and in the media depicts love, relationships and sex as “movie romance”. It’s just not real. And often I find myself spending time with patients trying to help them understand that, in real life, relationships and sex are often messy, complicated, funny, …
Continue ReadingNipplegasms are Real
I am always looking for new and interesting ways to educate patients on how to have orgasms with non-intercourse sex (as that is indeed how most women have orgasms.) Positions, play and exploration are all great ways to explore erogenous zones, but sometimes it is helpful to have a little more direction. A patient recently …
Continue ReadingWhen Touch Gets Touchy
Every couple is different. Every couple has its own unique dynamics and ways of connecting. Yet so many issues are the same from couple to couple and when it comes to sexual dysfunction, we see many of the same patterns in couples from all age groups and backgrounds. An example of this is what happens …
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