She Comes First, by Ian Kerner is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. The book is modeled after another book by …
Continue ReadingThe art of the quickie.
A patient told me a story this morning. She and her husband usually have sex about two times a week. Generally, it’s Saturday night and one other night during the week, either when they go to bed, or if their teenage kids happen to be out one evening. Last week, her husband approached her on …
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She Comes First, by Ian Kerner, is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. It was modeled after the book by Strunk …
Continue ReadingMasturbation-in-training.
Have you heard of Betty Dodson? She’s an 80-something woman, author of two books about sex and the self-described Queen of Masturbation. This link was sent to me by one of my young friends in college who always makes me smile, and I thought I’d pass it along: Bottom line, the author of the article …
Continue ReadingSex during pregnancy.
For the most part, sex during pregnancy really shouldn’t be all that different from sex at other times. Sex is safe, fun and a great way to celebrate this special time in your life with your partner. However, here are some things to keep in mind: If your doctor gives you specific instructions, it’s important …
Continue ReadingTensing your body during sex.
Tensing your body during sex can either be a means to generating pleasure or a reaction to experiencing pain. If you’re interested in learning about tensing your body due to pain, read our blog on that topic. However, if you’re tensing your body because sex is pleasurable, read on. It seems that part of having …
Continue ReadingThe sex “drive”.
It was our first session of Driver’s Ed, and there we were sitting in the nerdy Driver’s Ed car. At last, it was my friend’s turn to drive and she joyously made her way to the front seat. With excitement on her face and eagerness to get moving, she simultaneously placed her right foot on …
Continue ReadingInjections for the Vagina?
Vaginismus is a condition in which the muscles in the vagina spasm involuntarily preventing vaginal penetration. This involuntary spasm can prevent women from inserting a tampon, undergoing speculum exams and having intercourse. Vaginismus is a major cause for unconsummated marriages. The cause of vaginismus is unknown, however fear, anxiety and pain can be contributing factors. …
Continue ReadingInspiration.
I am often inspired by my patients, by their courage to face their issues, by their commitment to the process of getting better and often by their fearlessness to do things that are completely foreign and that make them feel incredibly uncomfortable. I saw a patient yesterday who did all of the above. When we …
Continue ReadingGive the chubby guy a chance.
We were sitting with a patient yesterday. We love this patient. She’s funny, warm, smart and quite pretty. She, like so many of our patients, struggles mightily with her feelings of sexual inadequacy. “I don’t think I’m sexy enough.” “I don’t feel like I know enough.” “I’m just not pretty enough.” These are the kinds …
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