Regardless of age or sexual dysfunction, every woman should have a bottle of lube next to her bedside. Whether it is because you suffer from vaginal dryness, want to have a “quickie” and haven’t given yourself enough time to become aroused, or because you just like the feeling of having something ‘extra’ down there to …
Continue ReadingLow hormone levels: always the problem?
Having low hormone levels do not necessarily mean that your desire for sex will shrivel up like styrofoam in a campfire. Sex, and our desire for sex, is dependent on many, many elements and hormones are just one of them. For most women having a healthy relationship with her partner, being attracted to her partner, …
Continue ReadingPatient to patient — A conversation about vaginismus.
Something wonderful happened today. I saw a new vaginismus patient. Typical in many ways, she is in her 30’s, pretty and petrified of romantic relationships. She avoids relationships because she believes that there is something “wrong with her.” She feels ashamed and damaged. She really doesn’t believe she can be helped. The few relationships she …
Continue ReadingDo your kegels!
I’m sure I’m not the first one to tell you this, but kegel exercises are really important. As you age, the muscles around your vagina and urethra weaken. This can lead to all kinds of problems which, trust me, you don’t want. Most often women experience leaking urine when they cough, laugh or sneeze. It …
Continue Reading“The Cookie Sutra.”
Every once in a while a book comes out that makes us smile. The Cookie Sutra is one of them. Written with a witty tongue-in-cheek style with adorable pictures of gingerbread men and women in a variety of compromising positions, this book would make a really fun gift. As the cover states, this is the …
Continue ReadingBook review: Will “Sex at Dawn” influence sex therapy?
Recently, Sexuality Resource reviewed Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha’s Sex at Dawn — a new book drawing on a vast amount of cultural and physical anthropological scholarship to argue that for our hunter-gatherer ancestors, sexual promiscuity may have been an established way of life. And that the development 10,000 years ago of agriculture, an ownership society, …
Continue ReadingTips for selecting a sex therapist.
At the Center we treat women who suffer from various conditions that prevent them from having satisfying sex lives. Our goal is to uncover the physical causes of these conditions and treat them medically. On staff at the Center are human sexuality counselors who conduct a psycho-sexual intake before a patient’s physical exam. Through this …
Continue ReadingShould dinner always come first?
I’ve been thinking of the very romantic notions we have regarding dinner dates. The typical order of events is: large, beautiful, (usually quite saucy) romantic meals and then great sex. In a way that makes sense because dinner is seen as the wooing and romancing which is then followed by sex. The problem with this …
Continue ReadingKids at camp = more time for sex!
We had to repost this advice since, well, it’s summer!! Okay so your kids are at camp, you’re alone in the house — have sex! The summer might be an unusually great time for you to reconnect with your partner. Even if you’re not lucky enough to have the house to yourself, for many people …
Continue ReadingSize….again.
Am I starting to sound like a broken record? Again and again, we get women saying “I wish my partner was a little smaller. I guess I’m an anomaly, but I just don’t like having intercourse with a large penis. It hurts.” You’re not an anomaly. It is so rare that anyone complains of a …
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