One of the common myths around sex is that it is just one compartment of a relationship. In other words, if everything else in the relationship is good — you get along well, have similar values, enjoy spending time together — then that can overcompensate for what is lacking sexually. However, I have seen time and time …
Continue ReadingHappy New Year!
Joining a gym and getting more exercise is probably the most common resolution year after year. No doubt the fitness industry booms after we ring in the New Year. Gym memberships can be very expensive especially when you factor in the money you spend on new sneakers, workout gear, gym bags, iPods and gas money!! …
Continue ReadingA bridge to connection.
With the increase in awareness around emotional issues and the benefits of therapy treatment, the stigma associated with seeking therapy has declined over time. In urban areas, especially in New York City, it’s not uncommon to be at a social gathering and hear a peer share a revelation she had in her therapy session, or …
Continue ReadingA satisfying sex life without orgasms?
Anorgasmia is the inability to have orgasms. A small part of the female population suffers from this condition. A more wide spread issue we see here is women complaining that their orgasms are weaker and/or more difficult to achieve. Sometimes these issues can be treated easily by increasing dopamine and using a strong vibrator. However, …
Continue Reading“Quiet — The Power Of Introverts.”
I am writing yet another blog about introversion because it seems to me to be such an important aspect of who someone is. Author, Susan Cain, in her book Quiet, explains that the distinction between introverts and extroverts is born out of how one deals with stimulation. Cain clarifies that the term introvert describes a …
Continue ReadingFinding what clicks.
As you sit here reading this webpage, odds are you have a pop-blocker setup for your internet browser. The purpose of a pop-up blocker is to ensure that as you peruse the web, you do not have to deal with a bombardment of windows that would normally appear as you stumble upon new webpages. …
Continue ReadingJoyce Walder: Trust, intimacy and connection.
We see single women of all ages here at MCFS. I am a huge proponent of on line dating at any age. Often, when I suggest it to women, they will say they feel anxious, insecure, or not ready. I try to encourage them to feel good about themselves and to realize that most men …
Continue ReadingSex and Chinese food.
The other day I was talking to a patient who originally came in for the treatment of low desire and painful intercourse. A few months into her treatment, her relationship with her husband has transformed and she is feeling more satisfied in her marriage as a result. When we were discussing her progress, she said …
Continue ReadingSex and mind reading.
“It’s like he can read my mind.” When it comes to relationships, we’ve all heard these words. Whether we said it ourselves or heard it from a friend gushing about a relationship, the ideal of a partner reading our minds is one that many women hope for and value in a dynamic. The notion of …
Continue ReadingSocial media: it’s more than face value.
Before the days of Facebook, Twitter, and blogs, our knowledge of people’s intimate lives was limited. Either the curtains were closed or we could only see what was on center stage. Today, it seems that not only is the curtain always open and there’s always stage visibility, but we have a continuous backstage pass as …
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