Anorgasmia is the inability to have orgasms. A small part of the female population suffers from this condition. A more wide spread issue we see here is women complaining that their orgasms are weaker and/or more difficult to achieve. Sometimes these issues can be treated easily by increasing dopamine and using a strong vibrator. However, some orgasm issues are far more complicated. Everyone is unique so it is worth exploring all options, but one should know that many aspects of a woman’s orgasm remain a mystery. Although the media portrays orgasms as the ultimate goal of sex, I began to explore this mystery and found compelling evidence that one can have a satisfying sex life even without having orgasms.
Psychology Today published an article titled, “Will Orgasms Keep You in Love?” where the authors Maria Robinson and Gary Wilson explore the neurochemistry of orgasm. The authors state, “The neurochemistry of passionate love is transient. New lovers are jacked up on special honeymoon neurochemicals, which go far beyond the effects of oxytocin. For example, they have extra nerve growth factor and cortisol flowing through their veins. Dopamine-releasing areas of the brain are activated. Their serotonin is often as low as the levels of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) patients—which is why lovers obsess over each other. In addition, odd things are going on with their testosterone levels: They’re lower than normal in men during early romance, and higher than normal in women—bringing their libidos more into sync. Yet all these potent neurochemicals return to normal levels by year two at the latest. Once that booster shot wears off, cracks often appear. Intriguingly, there’s growing evidence of a subtle neurochemical/hormonal after climax, which can impact mood and shift partner perception and affects each of us slightly differently. As our honeymoon neurochemistry fades, too much orgasm can leave some lovers averse to hot sex for days—and others more insatiable th Tellingly, even though everyone really likes orgasm, and sex aids abound, only thirteen percent of couples manage to stay romantically in love over the long haul. Fleeting orgasm-related surges of oxytocin do not appear to be the magic bullet for harmony. “
This might be comforting to women who have difficulty with orgasm. I believe that a consistent and satisfying sex life can keep couples closer, and sex does not need to include orgasm. This article points to the fact that mythology around the power of orgasm is ubiquitous. Many men and women alike feel that they should strive to have them and that sex is incomplete without it. Many women who don’t have them can still have satisfying sex lives. Though I feel an orgasm can be an important element of sexual satisfaction for both men and women, sexual connection can be fulfilling without a goal in mind.