Esther Perel, in her book, Mating In Captivity, seems to believe that it often does. She writes that in our quest for security and stability we become too close to our partners and we get too comfortable. In that process, she feels that individuals in a couple often stop viewing one another as exciting. She …
Continue ReadingDressing sexy.
There’s always some women’s magazine article encouraging you to wear a sexy negligee or bewitching underwear. It’s a point made often because we are Pavlovian creatures and we do respond to outside stimulus. If we remember having great sex wearing that red satin teddy we wore the year we got engaged, it’s very likely that …
Continue ReadingResources on sex education.
I’m often asked for some suggestions of books to help talk to kids about sex. My wonderful friend, Catherine Dukes, PhD, who is the VP for Education at the Planned Parenthood of Delaware, is always a wealth of knowledge on sex education and resources. She suggested the following link, http://answer.rutgers.edu/page/books, and I thought it was great …
Continue ReadingEmpathy can improve your sex life.
Empathy is the most fundamental building block of any relationship. The concept is that if you are able to think about your partner and what they are thinking and feeling, it may make you feel more connected to him or her. It may take some practice. It requires a bit of focus to think about …
Continue ReadingImbalance in sexual desire between you and your partner.
In my practice at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality, we see many patients with questions about desire. What do you do when there is an inequity between how much you desire sex and how much your partner does? How do you get your desire level back to what it was when you first met? …
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