Empathy is the most fundamental building block of any relationship. The concept is that if you are able to think about your partner and what they are thinking and feeling, it may make you feel more connected to him or her. It may take some practice. It requires a bit of focus to think about …
Continue ReadingImbalance in sexual desire between you and your partner.
In my practice at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality, we see many patients with questions about desire. What do you do when there is an inequity between how much you desire sex and how much your partner does? How do you get your desire level back to what it was when you first met? …
Continue ReadingPositive body image and sex.
As a clinician at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality I hear many, many women struggle with their self image. Patients wonder how they can feel “sexy” when they don’t feel good about their bodies. There is no easy answer to this question. Just as each woman must explore her likes and dislikes sexually, each …
Continue ReadingDesire and arousal — they are different!
We tend to mix up the two. Women say things like “I don’t want to have sex.” And what they mean by that, often, is “it doesn’t feel good when I have sex. I don’t get turned on.” But, the desire to have sex can — and often is — divorced from the way our body …
Continue ReadingSex after childbirth.
We see women of all ages at the Center, but in the last few years we have been visited by a large number of women looking to address changes in their sex lives after having babies (typically, we see a woman after her 2nd child, though first time moms make appointments too). Generally, the two …
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