Author Esther Perel wrote the book, Mating in Captivity, in 2006. This is a great book for looking at the complicated relationship between long term monogamy and ongoing desire. Perel articulately explores how often our longing for stability and comfort can annihilate passion and desire. Perel furthered her research by traveling the world and asking …
Continue Reading“The Secret Lives of Wives.”
The Secret Lives of Wives, by Iris Krasnow is a pretty interesting exploration of long term marriage where she investigates marriages that last between 15 and 70 years . She has also written books called, Surrendering to Marriage and Surrendering to Motherhood. Krasnow is a journalist by training. The book is an easy read because …
Continue ReadingThe Coolidge Effect.
“The Coolidge Effect” is a term coined by Ethologist Frank A. Beach, a researcher, known for his studies in psychobiological brain functions and sexual behavior in mammals. In 1955, Beach was at a psychology conference where he was presenting his recent findings on a study on the reproductive behaviors of rats. One of his students …
Continue ReadingVulvodynia.
Vulvodynia refers to pain that occurs in vulvar region. Vulvar pain can either be provoked, unprovoked or both. The most common type is provoked vestibulodynia or (PVD). “It has been estimated (that vestibulodynia) effects 12% of premenopausal women in the general population. It is characterized by severe burning/sharp pain that occurs in response to pressure …
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The technique that Nicole Daedone describes in her book, Slow Sex, The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm, sounds odd. Daedone suggests that the partner, “sits with his left leg over her belly and his right leg under her knees, where he can both see and access her genitals. Once in position, he looks …
Continue ReadingShe Comes First.
She Comes First, by Ian Kerner is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. The book is modeled after another book by …
Continue Reading“She Comes First.”
She Comes First, by Ian Kerner, is a great educational tool. It is an explicit guide to help men successfully give a woman an orgasm. His audience is really the inexperienced male partner. Thus the title, She Comes First, the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman. It was modeled after the book by Strunk …
Continue ReadingEmotionally Focused Therapy.
Often when we see a woman for treatment at the Center, we find that part of what she may be struggling with is her relationship. When that is a part of what is going on we may refer the patient for couples therapy. This is partly why our treatment is so effective. We can increase …
Continue ReadingTeaching about vibrators.
One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …
Continue ReadingEmbracing your inner girl.
Eve Ensler gave a talk at the TED conference in 2009 about embracing one’s inner girl, which she has written a book about. One of my amazing patients recently brought it to my attention. I have always known about and respected Eve Ensler so it was fun to see what her latest work has been …
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