Reading erotica is a behavioral activity we often recommend to our patients looking to help increase their desire and arousal. Some patients find reading random articles in Cosmopolitan Magazine are sufficient enough to get their motors started, while others find the erotica we recommend too “vanilla”. Like everything else in life, what works for one person doesn’t …
Continue ReadingVibrators and men? You bet!
An article published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy (“Vibrator Use Among Heterosexual Men Varies by Partnership Status: Results From a Nationally Representative Study in the United States”), states that 44% of heterosexual men have used a vibrator at some point in their lives. In most cases they’ve used it with a partner, …
Continue ReadingSex and the vibrator movie.
I admit it. I have been waiting all my life (okay, maybe just the last 10 years) for someone to make a quality film about the incredibly interesting history of vibrators. Really. I’m not kidding. And finally, someone is doing it. (Well, I can’t actually vouch that it’s quality, but it is a real film). …
Continue ReadingI’ve been converted.
At the Medical Center I recently saw a patient who had rarely used vibrators. She came to see us to try to improve her orgasms, which had become weaker and taking her longer to achieve. We often see this in women as they age; sometimes it is a shift in hormones, which we can address, …
Continue ReadingApology letter to a vibrator.
Dear Vibrator, I am so sorry. I placed you in a drawer months ago and have not sought you out since. Please understand, though I enjoyed you, I got nervous that this may be the only way I can orgasm. My orgasms with you were intense and powerful and would occur like clock-work 10 minutes …
Continue ReadingUsing a vibrator — when you’re having sex with your partner!
Often I have patients who have trouble having orgasms. Sometimes they are women who are going through menopause or are getting older and they’re just having a harder time “getting there.” Sometimes they are women who always just had a harder time reaching orgasm. Either way, a vibrator makes their life wayyyyy easier and often …
Continue ReadingFind your clitoris.
I was having a conversation with a 72 year old friend of mine. Me: “So, you never thanked me for that vibrator I sent you.” She:”I had no idea what to do with it.” Me: “hey, I sent it with that great book, Sex For One” (the book’s by Betty Dodson, in case any of …
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