Teaching about vibrators.

One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …

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Injections for the Vagina?

Vaginismus is a condition in which the muscles in the vagina spasm involuntarily preventing vaginal penetration. This involuntary spasm can prevent women from inserting a tampon, undergoing speculum exams and having intercourse. Vaginismus is a major cause for unconsummated marriages. The cause of vaginismus is unknown, however fear, anxiety and pain can be contributing factors. …

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Treating orgasm issues.

“In 1,749 randomly-sampled U.S. women, 24% reported an orgasmic dysfunction.” I think it is helpful to see the statistics on how often anorgasmia occurs because many women think they are alone in facing this issue. Often women we see at the Center feel unclear about exactly what an orgasm is. Orgasms are different for every …

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College orgasms — he said, she said.

I gave a lecture on Female Sexuality and Empowerment to a group of college students the other day. To my surprise, there were more men than women in the group. As the group was smaller in size than expected, we were able to have a more interactive discussion. The group was enthusiastic about learning about …

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There is nothing I love more than feeling like I’ve helped a woman that came in to see me at the Center. The struggles of sexual problems, whether it be painful intercourse, lack of desire, difficulty becoming aroused or so many of the other issues that arise, affect so many areas of a woman’s life. …

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The year in clinical sexuality, 2011.

As we get ready to leave 2011 behind, I would like as always to express my gratitude to family, friends and colleagues for your support and encouragement over the past year; and to my patients for your trust and confidence. May we all merit much happiness in 2012. Here’s my list of 2011′s most interesting …

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Fantasies.

Most women don’t feel comfortable sharing their sexual fantasies. In fact, many say they don’t even have them. There is some notion that one should fantasize about their boyfriend or husband only, and that fantasies should be fairly tame and not involve anything out of the ordinary. In fact, the beauty of a fantasy is …

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Asexuality.

The concept of asexuality first came to my attention a few months ago when I began to see a young woman who was struggling with the fact that she felt no desire to be sexual. As a teenager she felt ostracized from having no interest in sex of any kind. Her girlfriends were all talking …

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Adversity and desire.

It happens all the time. A tearful, distraught woman sits down and informs us that: Her husband is leaving her/has left her. Her husband is having/was having an affair. She believes this is due to the fact that they haven’t had sex in (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 5 …

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