On scheduling sex — when you have kids.

Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …

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Idealistic Sex vs Realistic Sex

In our center, we are often troubleshooting with patients when it comes to creating a sex life that feels sustainable on a regular, non-vacation basis. While each case is different and every relationship has its unique challenges, what often emerges from patients are idealistic notions about sex that may sound nice and appealing, but are …

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On scheduling sex — when you have kids.

Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …

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