A recent article was published in the New York Times that I found really interesting. It’s called “Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person”; catchy title, I know, but I don’t think it’s a depressing read. The premise of the article is basically that we go into relationships with unrealistic expectations of love, marriage and …Continue Reading
Because Sex is Not Just About Sex
Here’s an excerpt from an e-mail I recently received. I LOVED getting this e mail, not only because it was good news, which is always nice to get, but because I believe the writer highlighted something so crucial- how quickly sexual issues can snowball and affect the entire relationship even when a couple loves each …Continue Reading
LOVE, NOT SO BLIND
A young patient at Maze Women’s Health is perplexed that the passion she had felt early in her marriage has cooled. What happened to the strolls under perfect skies and the rides to the stars? Psychologist Israel Charny sees “normal” marriage as a relationship intrinsically laden with conflict and considers husbands and wives to be each other’s “intimate enemies.” We have to compromise …Continue Reading
Marriage and happiness.
I recently read an interesting article in the New York Times by Claire Cain Miller called, “Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married” published on January 8, 2015. The study found that marriage can provide more happiness for couples particularly during mid-life because it is a very stressful times due to the demands …Continue Reading
Summer has arrived, which means wedding season is here. Despite the growing divorce rate and various stressors that threaten long-term relationships, millions of people will walk down the aisle this summer. They will (hopefully) feel excited, hopeful, and dedicated to the unity of marriage, vowing to stay committed even when the going gets tough. But …Continue Reading
“The Secret Lives of Wives.”
The Secret Lives of Wives, by Iris Krasnow is a pretty interesting exploration of long term marriage where she investigates marriages that last between 15 and 70 years . She has also written books called, Surrendering to Marriage and Surrendering to Motherhood. Krasnow is a journalist by training. The book is an easy read because …Continue Reading
Sexless marriage is something that is rarely discussed. I have found that the most vocal people are the ones who are having sex and those that are not tend to keep quiet. This is horrible because myths about how effortless sex can be continue to be perpetuated. I find that in general once couples are …Continue Reading
Hope springs — from a sex therapist’s perspective.
I saw the movie Hope Springs this weekend, and I mostly loved it. It’s hard to see a movie which describes what you do every day without wanting to yell directions…I probably felt how baseball coaches must feel when they watch Angels in the Outfield or Field of Dreams. You sit there wanting to yell …Continue Reading
A measure of desire.
I really like the “Modern Love” column in the Sunday Style section of the New York Times. I would prefer that I didn’t have to dig my way through photos of who was thinnest and wore the shortest skirt at a recent charity event, or the new ways in which waxing makes you look shiny… …Continue Reading
Mass erotic choice as a social organizer — from “Beatlemania” to “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
The questions never change. Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what my clients are reading. But the greater part involves a search for conceptual tools with which to understand the erotic …Continue Reading