The answer is: yes and… no. If you feel like the part of you that wanted sex seems to have gone on an extended vacation, or if you feel like you never want sex and you can’t figure out why, it may be that you are missing hormones, your other medications are affecting you or …
Continue ReadingDo You Really Want to Fix Your Skin Rather Than Your Sex Life?
Sometimes I speak to women on the phone who know in their heart of hearts that they should come in and see us. Even with a brief conversation it becomes clear to both of us that their lack of desire, which is damaging their self-esteem or their relationship, could be helped by coming in for …
Continue ReadingWhen Touch Gets Touchy
Every couple is different. Every couple has its own unique dynamics and ways of connecting. Yet so many issues are the same from couple to couple and when it comes to sexual dysfunction, we see many of the same patterns in couples from all age groups and backgrounds. An example of this is what happens …
Continue ReadingCelebrities- They Are Just Like Us!
I recently read that the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences is suing the marketing firm that produced this years’ “Oscars goodie bags.” I admit I was curious to know, what’s in the bag? Each year, Oscar nominees take home the “Mother” of gift bags! So, the cat is out of the bag- along with …
Continue ReadingThe game isn’t over.
“Yikes, have you seen your vagina lately?” “You have the vagina of a ninety-year old woman.” “Can’t have intercourse? You’d make a great nun!” The above phrases were shared with me by patients and attributed to professionals they had consulted regarding their sexual dysfunction. Needless to say, the endeavors were not only futile in solving …
Continue ReadingWhen ‘someday’ is turning into ‘never’.
Most women we see have been struggling with their sexual functioning for a significant amount of time. It’s not uncommon for us to meet women who have spent years — even decades — trying to figure out why they can’t have a normal sex life and what they need to do to fix it. As many patients have …
Continue ReadingSex and Chinese food.
The other day I was talking to a patient who originally came in for the treatment of low desire and painful intercourse. A few months into her treatment, her relationship with her husband has transformed and she is feeling more satisfied in her marriage as a result. When we were discussing her progress, she said …
Continue ReadingLow libido while you’re nursing.
Yes, I know…you had a baby months ago and sex is still the last thing on your mind. Will it ever change? I get the questions a lot from nursing moms and they are often so confused as to whether their low libido is something that needs to be addressed or if they should wait …
Continue ReadingDHEA…we thought so all along.
A new small scale study out of Italy seemed to show that DHEA can be helpful with menopausal symptom and can also positively affect a woman’s sexual desire. So why is anyone surprised? The truth is that DHEA is a precursor hormone (or a “mother hormone” – but that title might suggest that it yells …
Continue ReadingDesire or “I want you!”
“I want you.” Three simple words, but somehow they seem nearly impossible to define. Desire can be very complex and often seems mysterious to us. It appears as a magical equation of attraction mixed with physical attributes, eroticism, passion, simple physical need, or love. And when desire is not there, in its place there is …
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