In Daniel Bergner’s latest book, What Do Women Want, I learned something new about what might be going on when women try to be sexual but find themselves distracted by thinking about other things. We often hear from them that while they were in the midst of trying to be sexual, they couldn’t turn down the voice in their …
Continue ReadingJust do it, and other dumb ideas.
A few years back when we were giving a training at a gynecologist’s office, one of the male doctors started listening to us speak about low desire and said flippantly: “Oh please. When a patient complains of lack of desire I tell her to think of the Nike ads and ‘”Just Do It!” I had to …
Continue ReadingLibrido: Can drugs help a woman’s desire?
There has been a lot of media attention recently on the advent of 2 new drugs being tested for female sexual dysfunction: Lybrido and Lybridos. But those aren’t the only two drugs currently being tested. A drug called Flibanserin had been tested and went to the FDA a few years ago, testosterone supplements including Libigel …
Continue ReadingHow your birth control pills could be preventing pregnancy and your interest in sex!
I am seeing an increase of younger patients coming to our office complaining of low desire or having no interest in sex. Some of these patients are in their early 20’s. Yup…20’s. Hormone levels naturally begin to decline in your 30’s, so what is going on? Although it is difficult to isolate one major cause …
Continue ReadingThe pill…what you need to know.
In 1961, the FDA approved the use of female oral contraceptive pills (commonly known as birth control pills). As of this writing, there are over 60 different birth control pills on the market. There are an estimated 12 million women in the United States using birth control pills. The consensus is that most women do …
Continue ReadingWe are here for you.
In a recent blog post, The Medical Center for Female Sexuality asked to hear from you, the readers. Here is one of the questions we received: Question: I am 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is 22 and like any normal young man, his sex drive is …
Continue ReadingSex and the single lady.
In Bolick’s article, “All The Single Ladies”, her focus is not sexual, it is more anthropological, but she does discuss sex. She quotes Robert H. Frank, who states that, “When available women significantly outnumber men, which is the case on many college campuses today, courtship behavior changes in the direction of what men want…. If …
Continue ReadingAsexuality.
The concept of asexuality first came to my attention a few months ago when I began to see a young woman who was struggling with the fact that she felt no desire to be sexual. As a teenager she felt ostracized from having no interest in sex of any kind. Her girlfriends were all talking …
Continue ReadingA good day at our center.
Someone once asked me what makes a good day at our center. Today is one of those days. Today I got an email with a copy of a baby picture from a patient who struggled for 2 years with vaginismus. She is fine, having great sex and has a beautiful little baby girl to prove …
Continue ReadingDesire or “I want you!”
“I want you.” Three simple words, but somehow they seem nearly impossible to define. Desire can be very complex and often seems mysterious to us. It appears as a magical equation of attraction mixed with physical attributes, eroticism, passion, simple physical need, or love. And when desire is not there, in its place there is …
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