In a recent article by Fisher and Alexander, the researchers posit that the differences between the sexes (in terms of sexual beliefs and practices) are really differences in perception rather than in actuality. The differences exist primarily in terms of “ gender norms” that society has created rather than in actual differences. The authors state …
Continue ReadingSex and the vibrator movie.
I admit it. I have been waiting all my life (okay, maybe just the last 10 years) for someone to make a quality film about the incredibly interesting history of vibrators. Really. I’m not kidding. And finally, someone is doing it. (Well, I can’t actually vouch that it’s quality, but it is a real film). …
Continue ReadingSeeing vaginismus everywhere.
My husband claims I see vaginismus everywhere. Okay. Maybe he’s right. Maybe I do…it kills me. When I see a woman who is totally avoidant of relationships I suspect she is fearful of penetration. When I see a young girl fearful of tampons, I suspect she is panicked at the idea of putting something inside. …
Continue ReadingA good day at our center.
Someone once asked me what makes a good day at our center. Today is one of those days. Today I got an email with a copy of a baby picture from a patient who struggled for 2 years with vaginismus. She is fine, having great sex and has a beautiful little baby girl to prove …
Continue ReadingHow long is too long: the average time for intercourse.
Okay ladies (and the men who may be looking over their shoulder.) The average time for intercourse is 3-5 minutes. So if your partner is thrusting inside of you for 25 minutes and your vagina hurts or gets sore, there is nothing wrong with your vagina. There is something wrong with your timing! Now…lets respond …
Continue Reading“IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD!” and other myths about painful intercourse.
I’m tired of doctors telling patients “it’s all in your head,” a quick response to a problem because they do not know what to say or how to help. Although this may be true in some circumstances, shouldn’t doctors acknowledge what a patient tells you? How do you know what they are feeling, emotionally or …
Continue ReadingYet another reason for women to be fit…
Overweight women should know that your oral contraceptive may take longer to become effective. A new study recently published in the Journal of Contraception found that oral contraceptives for woman who are overweight can take twice as long to become effective. Most drug tests are not tested on people who are obese and so body …
Continue ReadingIs longer always better?
No. No. No. I’m not doing another harangue on penis length, I promise. This has to do with time. There seems to be a prevalent myth out there that women always want men who can last longer. HMMMMM…let’s see. The average time that a penis usually spends in a vagina before ejaculating is 3-5 minutes. …
Continue ReadingYelling at the TV set!
I don’t have television. That is, I have the unit so I can watch DVDs but I don’t have any TV hook-up. This allows me to avoid watching hours and hours of TV which I am not interested in but probably would do if I had all of the channels and could avoid doing everything …
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