“I did not have sex with that woman!” This was the proclamation solemnly intoned by the actor portraying President Bill Clinton in the current TV series, Impeachment. In a subsequent episode, he is testifying at a deposition where he dissects, parses, frames, and reframes the word “sex” as well as what actually constitutes an act …
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It’s Hard To Talk To Your Kids About Sex
Yes, I know. You’d rather go to the dentist. Okay, maybe it’s not quite so bad, but most parents are just not comfortable talking to their kids about sex. And the sad truth is that many of us don’t even admit that to ourselves. As a sex therapist, when I am speaking to groups of …
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Have You Seen Sex Education on Netflix? Sex in The Media Series
As I’ve written about before, sex in the media isn’t always the most accurate depiction of what sex and sexuality look like in real life. This frustrates me, because for a lot of people, fictional depictions of sex (which are usually not very realistic) are often the only ways people are learning about sex and …
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Sex Should Not Hurt…Here’s Why: Advice from Our Nurse Practioner
Intercourse should not hurt. I am surprised at how many patients I see who have been suffering for years with painful intercourse of some kind. There are many reasons why someone might be suffering from painful intercourse. For example, lack of lubrication, vaginal muscle tension, endometriosis, vaginal infections, and structural abnormalities are all possible reasons …
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To Take the Pill, or Not to Take the Pill…It’s OK to Have Questions
In 1961, the FDA approved the use of female oral contraceptive pills (commonly known as birth control pills) and the world has never been the same. Currently there are well over 60 different birth control pills on the market and an estimated 12 million women in the United States using birth control pills. For most …
Continue ReadingSnapping Back…
There’s been a lot of talk about resilience, flexibility, adaptability, creativity as it pertains to the on-going pandemic. These words have always applied to life in general as sadly we know that no one gets by in this world without some scars. Yet, “there are people who snap when they’re knocked down and those who …
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How to Slay the Green- Eyed Monster? Kill It With Kindness!
I recently read the book Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari. The author believes that we live in an individualistic culture and are raised to look outward and compete, whether we realize it or not. At Maze I often hear women compare their sex lives and family situations …
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What’s the Deal with Fantasies?
People worry about their fantasy life way too much. I’m not sure when, or how, as a society, we lost our ability to distinguish between imagination and real life, but I know that loss of distinction affects us in many unhealthy ways. And, as a sex therapist, I’ll assure you, that your sex life is …
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Flexy Sexy
Peanut Butter and Jelly. Ben and Jerry. Meghan and Harry. Some things just go better together. The same can be said for flexibility and sex. When you think of this fine pairing, what comes to mind? The splits? Yogic athleticism? Double-jointedness? Sure, muscular-skeletal pliability may be an asset during sexual engagements. But I’m talking about …
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Say Something!
On a recent episode of HGTV’s Fixer To Fabulous, Dave Marrs playfully tells his wife, Jenny “your butt looks good in those jeans.” She smiles and thanks him for the compliment. After what seems like an eternal silence, Dave says “you can also tell me my butt looks good in my jeans, you know!” While …
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