At the Center, I frequently see patients suffering from vaginismus. Vaginismus is a “female sexual dysfunction,” specifically a genital pain disorder. Vaginismus is defined by involuntary spasms of the vaginal muscles which interfere with sexual intercourse. It goes without saying that this condition causes distress and tension in a couple’s relationship. In my search to …
Continue ReadingYour partner is fine.
Your partner is FINE We are always amused when patients assume that the reason they can’t reach orgasm through intercourse is because they don’t have a skillful partner, or that somehow their partner doesn’t try hard enough. At the Center, we are well aware of the fact (and you see it all the time in …
Continue ReadingMind reading.
We often think that our partners should be mind readers. We hope that they will intuit what we need and then give us that thing in the way we would like to get it. That is rarely the case. In truth, you need to teach someone how to love you. I hear our patients say,” …
Continue ReadingWhen it comes to sex, lying is not a good idea!
Yesterday we saw a wonderful patient of ours. She originally came in because she felt like “there was something wrong with her.” She was having a difficult time having orgasms and, more often than not, she could not have them with a partner. We’ve worked with her for a while to help her understand that …
Continue ReadingBirth control: what doctors never tell you.
If a patient comes to us with low desire or low arousal, one of the first questions we ask is, “Are you on birth control pills?” The reason we ask this is because oral contraceptives can wreak havoc on your system and can be particularly detrimental to your sexual desire. Yaz tends be the worst …
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