The Guide to Getting it On is a book by Paul Joannides. He describes himself as a research psychoanalyst and he writes a blog regularly for Psychology Today called “As You Like It”. He deals with a lot of important issues in both his book and in his blog, however his style in the book …
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A woman I know told me the following story which I thought was wonderful. She has been dating a guy for the past few months who (by all accounts) seems like a keeper. They have a lovely relationship. One day a week or two ago they were on the phone and he said, “You know, …
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The concept of asexuality first came to my attention a few months ago when I began to see a young woman who was struggling with the fact that she felt no desire to be sexual. As a teenager she felt ostracized from having no interest in sex of any kind. Her girlfriends were all talking …
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It happens all the time. A tearful, distraught woman sits down and informs us that: Her husband is leaving her/has left her. Her husband is having/was having an affair. She believes this is due to the fact that they haven’t had sex in (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 5 …
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At the Medical Center I recently saw a patient who had rarely used vibrators. She came to see us to try to improve her orgasms, which had become weaker and taking her longer to achieve. We often see this in women as they age; sometimes it is a shift in hormones, which we can address, …
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