Somehow, we women have gotten a raw deal. Everyone thinks our problems are in “our head.” It makes me INSANE…insane I tell you…when a women comes in and tells me she’s had vaginal pain for 3 years and since the doctor didn’t “see anything” she’s spent the last three years in therapy discussing why she …
Continue ReadingI’m not sure if this should be titled more BDSM or Privacy…
Here is an interesting and relevant article from today’s NY Times — “Talk About Privacy.” A wealthy high level executive in Britain is involved with BDSM and the story is picked up by the tabloids. It might cost him his job and he has now taken the case to court claiming a severe invasion of privacy. …
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I just came back from an AASECT conference (American Association of Sex Educators Counselors and Therapist — yes…there really is such a thing.) It was held in New Orleans of all places. Just imagine 800 sex therapists of one kind or another together in the sin city of the world. It makes for some great …
Continue ReadingDo beautiful people have better/more sex?
No. I wish I had the guts to end the post there. Because frankly that says it all. But alas, I feel compelled to spout more wisdom. No study has suggested that being better looking in any way gets you more sex…or makes you want it more. And from my anecdotal experience with patients I …
Continue ReadingI feel shy…
Often patients talk about feeling shy about trying new things sexually. It’s really more common than you think. Even with (maybe especially with) long term partners. (“What? We’ve been together 20 years, NOW I’m gonna tell him I want him to wear a fireman uniform?”) So here are some thoughts on “shyness.” Most people have …
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